Shasta Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Here is my story: I'm usually in and out of relationships all the time. It seems like every year I have a new guy, but it's because they break up with me. Up until about 4 weeks ago, I had a boyfriend for 8 months. We would spend the whole weekend together, we worked together (he just work the midnight shift while I worked mornings), and we were good friends. He went to San Antonio with his brother and ended up not calling me at all that week. I was so furious with him, I was about ready to call off the relationship...but when he came back, it was like everything went out the window and I just didn't want our relationship to end. A week later he came over on a Friday to spend the weekend with me at my apartment. He went grocery shopping with me, we out to dinner with me, and watched movies with me. Saturday morning he got up early and went to get us breakfast. He was acting normal. All lovey dovey. We watched another movie and then he said he wanted to take a shower, which he did. Then after he was done I took a shower. After I was done, I came out and he looked at me kinda weird and said "Come sit down", so I got my hairbrush and sat down next to him. He looked at me and then gave this really long sigh. I kinda knew something was wrong, but I thought maybe he knew when he was getting deployed (he's in the Army) or something along those lines. But then he said "I don't think it's going to work out between you and me." I was completely shocked. I didn't see it coming at all. I had no idea what to say to him, what to ask except for "Why?" between sobs, and he said "I'm just not happy." So, we went our seperate ways. Fast forward to that night. I was wanting to go out and have fun and not sit around and cry over this guy, so I went out with some friends to a club to drink and have fun. There I ran into my old crush from high school. We had always gotten along great with each other, so we hit it off right away and I ended up going back to his house. No, we didn't have sex or anything...we just sat up and talked all night. It was great to actually talk with someone like that. We've now been going out since that night. He's a great guy, treats me nice, buys things for me and takes me out to dinner...which I'm totally not asking for and have told him millions of times that I would be happy with just eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches with...but he likes doing things for me and said that it was awesome that I said that, but he wants to. Well...last night he asked me how much it would be for me to break my lease at my apartment and so I told him it would be $1250.00. He told me that he really wanted me in his life because I mean a lot to him and that he would pay the money for me to break my lease so I can live with him, as long as I payed him $100 a month. Here is my question. Some of my friends think its a little too soon to even THINK about moving in with him, because our relationship is so new...but I feel right about it. Everything makes sense. I've always had a huge crush on this guy, I mean I love him. Do you think it's too rash of a decision? Am I going to be making a huge mistake by moving in with him? I mean, he's already told me he sees himself marrying me! That's huge, right?! Someone please help!
niko1999 Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 I would say it is a little TOO soon to be thinking about it. Though you have had a crush on this guy for a long time, I dont think it would be good for you to do so. Granted yes, it can work out, but that is more the exception than the norm. I would wait and take time to make sure he really sint a rebound relationship, and that you really do feel the way you do feel. Becuase youre emotions are still probably a little raw, espeically considering how abruptly the relationship ended. I would sit down and truly think what you want, how you REALLY feel, and how you will feel in six months, and how he will feel in six months. HOpe it all works out for you.
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