semi Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Yeah its the age old question. Should I contact the ex? Things are going ok for me right now and I am seeing someone wonderful but being with this new person has brought my ex back to mind, who I am not completely over yet. I have just had this urge to make contact. I think I need some closure or something, I don't know what it is. It has just been so strong lately. I have always had the want to contact her but have always had enough strength to just keep it at a thought, even when she contacted me out of the blue. Nc for 7 months, yeah!!! Actually I talked to a friend a couple of weeks ago and he said my ex was interested in talking to me. Well that was interesting to know, maybe we could just talk or something, not sure what that would accomplish. I later find out that she had just split up with someone. That says a lot to me. She is so selfish, but for some reason at this current point I would like to talk to her. Is this a momentary lapse of weakness or a need that should be fulfilled? I think I have come a long way sort of.
seachange Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Not to be harsh, but you sound like you're still susceptible...I know this feeling all too well. Here's the question: let's say you call her up and talk. She says she wants to try again, perhaps casual, or perhaps just as friends. She sends tempting signals, perhaps mixed, perhaps straightforward. Either way: would you be open to it? Would you hesitate before saying no? Even a little? Would you wonder, after saying no to her, if you'd made the right choice? If so, then you shouldn't call - you could just shoot yourself right back into the old cycle. And you're right: she just broke up with someone and she's probably being selfish by wanting to know if you're still out there...
Author semi Posted November 29, 2005 Author Posted November 29, 2005 I think if I did talk to her I would want an apology. She is an amazing person but she sh*t on me and I just want to know that she has genuine feelings of resent/remorse whatever. I want her to be sorry and concerned about someone she cared about, not calling because she is lonely. Is she that cold? I think I need this. I NEED an apology. I don't want to mingle around pleasantries. I want her to tell me that she is sorry for making the last six months hell for me. Or is it too late? but really all signs point to her just thinking about herself. Is this a bad idea? I just don't want to feel like I am missing out on some sort of closure because of pride.
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