confused696969 Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 How did some of you KNOW you were over your ex?? What did it take?? How long? and HOW did you get over your ex, thats the toughest part for me!!
Tangerina Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 When I was grossed out by the thought that we ever had sex... or felt embarassed that I had been with him for 3 years and was just now realizing that pretty much no one in my life liked him.... I knew the magic was gone! Hmmm.... though maybe in some way I am not over it because I still have issues and anger to work out surrounding the relationship, but I am over HIM or ever wanting to be with him again... breakup was 6 months ago tomorrow! yay!
westernxer Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 You know you're over them when you can picture them doing somebody else, and it doesn't bother you one bit. Your perspective would probably change if you saw it happening, but that's highly unlikely.
a4a Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 You know you're over them when you can picture them doing somebody else, and it doesn't bother you one bit. Your perspective would probably change if you saw it happening, but that's highly unlikely. Boy you got that right! When you could care less who they are with or what they are doing...... you are done with em! a4a
newbby Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 when you cant see what you ever saw in them.
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 I'd go with Western's remark - when you don't mind them being with someone else. But IMO it's unnatural and unhealthy not to care about them at all. For example, first Juliet, from years back, rang me recently. I don't mind that she's with someone else - in fact, I think he's great - but I do mind that she has unhappiness in her life. That's closure.
newbby Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 I'd go with Western's remark - when you don't mind them being with someone else. But IMO it's unnatural and unhealthy not to care about them at all. For example, first Juliet, from years back, rang me recently. I don't mind that she's with someone else - in fact, I think he's great - but I do mind that she has unhappiness in her life. That's closure. most men i know say they never stop loving their exes, whereas women seem to wonder what the attraction ever was. has anybody else noticed this?
westernxer Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 most men i know say they never stop loving their exes, whereas women seem to wonder what the attraction ever was. has anybody else noticed this? I've seen it go both ways. I, for one, don't love any of my exes. The feelings are history.
AtarisKid Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Its kinda funny...after i broke up with my gf about 2 months ago, i started meeting all kinds of new girls, it makes you feel pretty good when you feel wanted again....but i cant say that i am not completely over my ex, i think that i am about 90 percent there. i ve decided that i will no longer date any girl that is younger than me (im 22). girls that are between the ages of 18-22 are usually really immature and just want to go out and party, (this is only my opinion). I ended up meeting this girl that was 2 years older than me and she really has her sh*t together with life and what not. hanging out with her and just the fact of meeting new girls made me realize what a waste of time my ex was and there is sooo much BETTER out there. so i know longer care what my ex does anymore....this is just what helps for me....
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 most men i know say they never stop loving their exes, whereas women seem to wonder what the attraction ever was. has anybody else noticed this? Interesting. I'm gonna think about this...
bluetuesday Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 when i got a new mobile phone and didn't feel compelled to let him know the new number. i think about him dispassionately and rather infrequently now. he's with someone else? that's great. i hope he's happy.
billskrill Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 I'm not completely over my ex but after over 2 months since the breakup and 20something days of NC I no longer find myself thinking about her as much as I used to and on top of that I'm interested in another girl...how that's going is another story but things are truely so much better after NC. I think it's different from every person and every relationship but you'll know when things are improving when you don't think about your ex more than you actually think about them.
fundamental Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 You know you're over them when you can picture them doing somebody else, and it doesn't bother you one bit. Your perspective would probably change if you saw it happening, but that's highly unlikely. I agree with this.
Mary3 Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 When I went to the Airport , the same one to see him many times, and felt nothing. When I drove through the city he lived , where I used to go, and felt nothing. When I found out he got married ( rather quickly ) and felt " oh he's married , poor girl. When I hear a formerly favorite song we used to sing and realized it was not our song but now my song. When I went to the beach, the beach we walked on and did not miss him but rather enjoyed walking with my girlfriend and enjoying the pier.
scobro Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 When you stop looking at their horoscope when you check your own you are on your way.I would now pee on my ex if she was on fire in front of me so I guess i'm on my way;)
bluetuesday Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 your icon is hilarious. erm, thanks. i'm thinking of changing it. the man i'm over made it for me.
AltplanB Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 oooo sorry. If it makes you feel better the icon gets annoying after a while.
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 When you stop looking at their horoscope when you check your own you are on your way.I would now pee on my ex if she was on fire in front of me so I guess i'm on my way;) its interesting to hear that someone has checked the exes horoscope! i've been doing this recently... worse thing about it all is hers is saying about love and a new partner and mines is saying s*** all interesting! well its probably all rubbish anyhow! i think you meant 'wouldn't pee' scrobo? wish i was moving on but i'm light years away from that!
littlekitty Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 I still remember the exact moment I knew I was over my last ex. I was painting the spare room, and had written in HUGE letters in paint 'I AM OVER YOU!' ***Note don't do this... it took 3 coats to cover the letters even though they were the colour I painted the walls!! *** Anyway, there's an advert on UK tv for something or other that had a nice song that went If you've been waiting- You've been waiting too long Just when you thought you could go on forever- Yeah If you've been waiting- You've been waiting too long Just when you thought you could hold it all together The world unwinds and your mind keeps a-spinning out I always found it made me think of love and being in love, and listening to it that night I suddenly had this overwhelming feeling of hope for the future and for falling in love again.... That's when I knew I was over him and ready to move on!
patwheel Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 I knew I was over her when : I started doing things that I would not do with her and enjoying themNot waking up at night thinking about herGoing outside my place with a smileNot posting about her anymore on LSWhen "Whitesnake-here I go again on my own" became my motto
flsgirl Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 You know you're over an ex when you don't care about them anymore. You have no good nor bad feelings toward them. When you see them, you feel nothing. If you never spoke to them again, you'd be okay with it. People often badmouth exes and claim how stupid they were for dating them, but I think they're truly not over it if they waste their breath even talking about them.
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