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I met a guy at work that I've become interested in.

 

Here's a little back story. We work in different areas, but we did a training together. Initially, I was just interested in making friends and I sent him (along with other people) an email. He never wrote me back.

 

Now, I've run into him a few more times, and we actually have a friend in common. I'm thinking about asking him to go for a drink or something the next time I run into him.

 

Questions:

1. Should I ask him out? Will that be completely intimidating? Is that not enough chase, automatically making him uninterested?

 

2. What's the best approach?

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Don't date co-workers. Bad idea.

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We work in such a large place and don't work in remotely the same area.

 

Imagine a large resort with 5,000 employees. The relationship of our positions is like that of a waitress in one of the resorts restaurants and a gardner. We show up to the same place everyday, but the the chance that we would ever work side by side is so slim. I would never date the chef or the host, but someone who works in a completely different area wouldn't be so awkward if things turned out ugly. In addition we will only be working at the same place for 5 more weeks, so I see this as my window of opportunity.

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Don't bother. It doesn't matter the distance or the proximity, dipping into the company pool almost always leads to some sort of disaster. Even when it doesn't, the amount of time it takes to keep it quiet and hope other people will keep your plans a secret will simply cause co-workers to be annoyed with you. And other women in the firm to be jealous of you.

 

There are plenty of eligible men outside the company, so why bother?

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