phrekmon Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 what kind o person tells her spouse of 10 years that she's going to meet the OM ?????? a heartless,lying,sick,twisted,f***ing b*tch . i just dont know what to do so im posting to multiple forum's read my thread and tell me some thing, anything, http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t75470/ i am by no means a violent person but the anger i feel now is overwhelming, thanks dennis
jhurtinct Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 dennis, I don"t know what I can say to make you feel better, but talking helps and I"ll listen.
JayZ Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t75888/ Here's my story... the latest chapter is that she can't let the other man go so I'm letting her go. 10 years with a 5 year old daughter. I'm here for you... the only thing that will help you is time. It's only been three days for me.
JayKay Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Wow, words fail me. I can't even imagine how my world would crumble if the same thing happened to me. My best friend and my BF are two of the most important people in the world to me. The idea of being betrayed so heartlessly and callously would destroy me emotionally.... I think you should get into therapy immediately -- you may need help dealing with depression. You two should seperate. Don't 'give her time' to 'sort things through'. She is f*****d up, sorry. She needs to lose you, if only temporarily, to realize the seriousness of her actions. If she thinks you'll be waiting in the wings for her return, she'll fail to understand how deeply she has hurt you. Get yourself a lawyer immediately. I don't know what the laws are in your state but you may have to wait to move out. Maybe SHE will move out and spare you the trouble. Anyway, the lawyer and therapist should be your two immediate concerns
Mz. Pixie Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Dennis, Did you not ASK her if she was going to see him?? How many times before she answered?? Did you want her to be honest or to lie? What you really wanted was for her NOT to be going to see him, but sadly she was. She is wrong, the whole thing is wrong. I'm seriously concerned for your health and well being. Please get some counseling.
Author phrekmon Posted November 29, 2005 Author Posted November 29, 2005 i didnt ask her if she was going to see him she said she had made plans for last night and couldnt see or talk with me, i said i thought you were going to have NC with him and she told me "he called me"
Owl Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 OK, a couple of thoughts for you my friend. One...punctuation. Use it please. Reading through posts with no punctuation or paragraphing literally gives me a headache, and I often just ignore those that aren't formatted like this, just to avoid the headaches and eyestrain. And there are lot of people out there like me with the same problem. Two...check out Marriagebuilders.com for a good plan on how to deal with a lot of this. There is a lot of good information you can use there (and even another forum like this one). Three...do as much research as you can on how affairs work, and what you can do to help resolve this issue the way you want it to go. You would be amazed at how much it helps when you have a plan of action.
Kenyth Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 You have no kids with her and no big pile of debt. You can start over with a lot less difficulty than most. Quit supporting her emotionally, accept her infidelity and the dissolution of your marriage, and go your seperate ways. Take a year to get your life in order, then start dating again. If they don't want you, you can't make them. The best thing you can do is help them and theirs out the door.
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