making a bad decision?

[what_to_do]

My boyfriend broke up with me a couple of months ago, out of the blue. He said that he felt that if we stayed together we would get married and he didn't know if he wanted that. Recently, I emailed him to see how he was, and told him that i would like to be friends and catch up sometime. He replied, said it was great to hear from me, and that he wants to get together. I do know that he has not stayed friends with girlfriends in the past. I'm wondering if i'm making a bad decision, and just setting myself up to get hurt! Is it a bad idea to "catch up" and try the friends thing? what is he thinking?!?

[Art_Critic]

it really depends on your mental state.. have you moved on ?

 

If you are strong enough to be around him without making a fool out of yourself and falling all over him then by all means give it a shot

[what_to_do]

Well, I feel that I have moved on because I don't see myself wanting to be with him (the whole trust issue), but I guess I'm worried that this could spark up old feelings...I find myself thinking about him, but more wondering what he's doing as opposed to why he's not with me

[Jellostick]

I think I might be in the same boat as you. My ex broke up w/ me almost a month and a half ago. I'm over the relationship but would have liked to have continued to be friends w/ her 'cause her and I have a lot in common. She has more in common w/ me than w/ her other friends and that's really the only thing I feel bad that was lost in the breakup (well, that and sex).

 

Unfortunately, it seems like she doesn't talk to any of her ex's either. She has mentioned ex's before, mentioned how one cheated on her and he was like the love of her life. She said that a year later they saw each other again, she seduced him and had sex w/ him and that's that 'cause that's all she wanted from him. That's the only story she ever told me about an ex but mentioned a few boyfriends she has had but never went into what happened between them.

 

I wish her and I still talked, I really do. I miss that part but I could never be w/ her again. If she wanted to, I would go out for coffee or lunch or whatever and I truly believe that I wouldn't fall for anything 'cause I've come to see who she is.

 

Like you I moved on but I think about her as well but more on the lines of that I feel sorry for her 'cause of the issues she has. Part of me still cares for her and I'd want what's best for her 'cause I hate seeing her in pain. I actually called her the other day and left her a message seeing how she is.

 

She won't talk to me so you're luckier than I am. I'm kinda disappointed that that's the stance she takes w/ her ex's but in your case, perhaps your ex will change his stance and will want to be friends w/ you. I just hope you don't fall into anything. Good luck.

 

Cheers.

[jacked17]

I have a question for you. On your last post you mentioned you were able to see through her issues and realize those and came to the conclusion you could never be with her again. How were you able to realize that you saw her for who she is in only a month and a half? What kind of issues did she have? Just because the more I think about my ex I realize she has a lot going on that she needs to deal with but she never will just because she jumps from one relationship to another without actually doing any sort of reflection.