consumed Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Well although I know talking to your ex will only lead to futher and extened pain I'm kinda wishing she would call. I know I've said it myself, it's better to not know things but I recieved an email from her this past weekend saying she would call when she got time... no call and my mind continues to spin. I know what happends when NC breaks, I know I might go back to day one, but It's hard to keep that nc. I just want to talk to her again.
JS17 Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 This is the exact reason for NC. Don't spend your time waiting for her to call. You know all of this already though. I'm sorry that you're hurting so much. It's a really painful experience to go through. It hurts now but you will get used to her not being part of your life anymore. You will go back to your old life and you will find yourself again. One day you will meet someone who deserves you again.
kodiak Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Consumed- i know that you are hurting and I can understand exactly what you are going through. Im going through terrible heartache right now. Please take the time to read my post "Not a second chance, just need some advice from all you here at the shack". You might have to scroll down a bit, but its there. Read it and you will see what i went through. Please dont make the same mistakes I did my brother. NC is the hardest thing one can go through, or atleast it feels that way at times. If two people are meant to be then it will happen. Contact or No Conatct wont change that at all. It might be years from now but if its meant to be then it will happen. I thought i was getting a second chance but it blew up in my face. It took me along time to get over my ex and now im back to day 1 in a way. Please read my thread and you will know what im talking about. Hang in there my brother, thats all we can do right now.
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 If two people are meant to be then it will happen. Contact or No Conatct wont change that at all. It might be years from now but if its meant to be then it will happen. Contact could change that as well as NC but it is very very unlikely, i've known a few instances where the dumpers were pursued to ridiculous lengths just to keep contact and in the end it worked... even when the dumper was trying to show the dumpee that she wanted nothing to do with them including seeing men in the nightclub right in front of the dumpee... ouch... no thanks! The only problem with the 'meant to be then it will happen' i feel is it could give the dumpee long term false hope and stop them moving forward or severely delay this!
kodiak Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Contact could change that as well as NC but it is very very unlikely, i've known a few instances where the dumpers were pursued to ridiculous lengths just to keep contact and in the end it worked... even when the dumper was trying to show the dumpee that she wanted nothing to do with them including seeing men in the nightclub right in front of the dumpee... ouch... no thanks! The only problem with the 'meant to be then it will happen' i feel is it could give the dumpee long term false hope and stop them moving forward or severely delay this! BrainRightHeartWrong- I totally agree with you about the whole if its meant to be then it will be. You just have to know that nomatter how much you try or beg or plead, what will happen will happen. You have to be able to move on with your life. I know that its hard to put that torch of hope out but that will definately keep you from moving on. I know that firsthand... I just want consume to see how contacting the ex can blow up in your face. It like you take two steps forward, the ex calls, and you take 4 steps back.
Author consumed Posted November 29, 2005 Author Posted November 29, 2005 I could never stand hearing "if it's meant to be, it will be". I know your right by saying that but hearing it kills me. When I think about that, makes me just think that say 3 yrs from now or even 10 if I get back together with my ex she will proably have had other relationships since and devoloped new feelings for other guys. Why does the whole breakup thing have to be sooo much pain, sometimes it seems like there isn't an end. Some days are good, others are downers. Some start good but end bad. The dreams seem to be never ending, thoughts of her seem to be constantly running though my mind all day, even while Im at work. Some days it seems like I can see light and happiness and then in an instant it comes crashing down. NC is the hardest because you still care for the other person and you just want to know how they are doing. I mean 3 weeks ago I woke up next to her, 3 weeks ago she was always there to talk to, do things with, and now she's gone. How do you accept something like that? Most days I feel like someone has stuck a knife through my heart and I've been left alone to pick my self up, start over again. It's crazy hard most days, it seems like the pain is a never ending river.
Art_Critic Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 It's all part of life consumed.. you have to take the good with the bad.. An ex is and ex for a reason and obsessing over them sleeping with someone else intead of you sleeping with someone else is juts wasting your life away.. I say get on with life..
In Sync Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 When I read your post, it broke my heart. I have been in your shoes and understand what you are feeling. I made the mistake of breaking NC and paid the price dearly, indeed as everyone here at LS had warned me... No one can make you not call her and even if you did, it's not the end of the world AND we will be here for your support regardless. Between you and I, I have the urge to break NC almost on a daily basis, but I recognize it's just ghost whispers of the relationship. I'm ok with that too. Eventually those whispers will fade completely. Try to keep in mind that it's okay to have these feelings...you were in love..and this heartache is a reflection. But you'll have to let the storm of it ride through you. Give yourself credit..as you said you have to pick yourself up. That's the hardest part sometimes.
NoFaith05 Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Please don't waste your time waiting for this person to call you! Go out and do some things that you enjoy- trust me, it really does help! If this person wants to reach you, they know where to find you.
Author consumed Posted November 30, 2005 Author Posted November 30, 2005 well it's been one wk after she sent the email telling me she would call and nothing.
In Sync Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 well it's been one wk after she sent the email telling me she would call and nothing. Now count your blessings because this is a wake up call to becoming a new you. A new you that will no longer break NC for this girl. And a new you that will start fresh and no longer be at the mercy this girl, i.e. Pinning and wasting your time waiting for a cheesy e-mail from her. It sucks, but eventually we all get the wake call.
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