Cupcake Posted November 28, 2005 Posted November 28, 2005 Here's the deal, I have a friend who has been dating this chic for almost two years. It started out as a rebound relationship. Right now, he swears it is just a rebound. But he has spent a lot of money buying expensive gifts for her, and she has spent a lot more money on him. Right now, she is moving out from her parents and into an apartment that is close to where he lives. For Christmas, he showed me her list and he plans to buy everything she wants. He is looking for a better girlfriend. In the meantime, he is settling for her. And I think she wants to marry him. I would never spend so much money on a person I don't love. And I would never spend two years in a relationship with someone I don't love. How far is too far when love is NOT involved.
WhiteDragon Posted November 28, 2005 Posted November 28, 2005 Here's the deal, I have a friend who has been dating this chic for almost two years. It started out as a rebound relationship. Right now, he swears it is just a rebound. But he has spent a lot of money buying expensive gifts for her, and she has spent a lot more money on him. Right now, she is moving out from her parents and into an apartment that is close to where he lives. For Christmas, he showed me her list and he plans to buy everything she wants. He is looking for a better girlfriend. In the meantime, he is settling for her. And I think she wants to marry him. I would never spend so much money on a person I don't love. And I would never spend two years in a relationship with someone I don't love. How far is too far when love is NOT involved. I say three months is too far whenever you are buying them expensive gifts and such and don't want to be with them. Sounds to me he doesn't want to be alone so he is just settling with this girl who seems very materialistic. In fact this guy NEEDS to be single!! Tell him there is plenty out there and its not the end of the world if he is single!
kitkat826 Posted November 28, 2005 Posted November 28, 2005 The longest I've spent with a "Mr. Right Now" is 6 months. I knew from the first date that he wasn't someone I could be long term with, yet I was perfectly fine with settling for what made me happy in the moment. I think it felt safe knowing I could be satisfied yet not worry about where it was going, if he was the "one", etc. Eventually, though, problems came up like they always do, and it became obvious I was putting too much energy into a relationship that I wasn't planning on continuing forever. So it just kind of crumbled on both sides, and we decided to stay friends (with occasional benefits). So we ended up with the type of relationship we probably should have had all along. But money like you're talking about was never involved..I can't imagine why your friend would do it, unless somehow spending money satisfies him in some way that the actual relationship doesn't. I don't know, some people have complexes about money, material things, etc.
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