Phily Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 Hi! I've been in a relationship with a 30yo Chinese woman for the past 10 months. We have a great relationship but she isn't as affectionate as I would like her to be. I'm a confident guy and don't need reassurance, but it would be nice to have a little more affection come from her. She has been in the U.S. since she was 16yo and grew up with a single mom who wasn't always there for her. Is it common in Asian culture not to show too much emotion or affection to their mate? Just curious... Thanks in advance for your reply!!!
alphamale Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 Is it common in Asian culture not to show too much emotion or affection to their mate? Just curious... yes, the display of strong emotions, either positive or negative, are generally frowned upon...
933KJL Posted November 28, 2005 Posted November 28, 2005 I am not sure about China but in Japan, the male is totally doted upon. There is nothing that your woman won't do for you. A lot of it has to do with the acceptance of Geisha girls that will do anything..the wives know it, and they make up for it.
MakeMeBeautiful Posted November 28, 2005 Posted November 28, 2005 I don't know if my perspective will help. I grew up in the United States. I suppose it is true that asians are generally more reserved when it comes to emotions. I certainly am not when I am in a relationship. In the beginning of a relationship I am more traditional. I like the guy to do the pursuing but that has more to do with the fact that I am a little more conservative. It has nothing to do with the fact that I am asian. I think I am very affectionate. When I start to like a guy I start to think about him and how I can make him happy. If he likes a certain drink I make sure I have it in my fridge for when he visits. I'll buy random things when I am out just because I think of him. I will cook his favorite meal. I will kiss him out of the blue. You get the picture.
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