She Cheated On Me Then Broke Up!!!! Help Me Out Anyone

[BrokenheartedinNY]

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Hello,

I wonder if anyone can help me out. My ex someone I loved so much and gave her anything decided to break up with me after she went to study in Australia for 5 months. Her reason is that she does not miss me and we were in constant contact for those months either by phone or email. She said she is not dating anyone but did cheat once on me and admited that to me on the day she broke up with me a week after I sent her flowers. I feel so bad I told her I was alright by her decision yet I feel so bad and cannot move on since I have not seen her or talked to her in person about the break up. She is 20 years old we meet when she was 18. She is a wonderful person I helped her out so much and we were best friends and she only trusted me with her most deepest secrets. We have not been in contact for about a month and in two weeks she is coming back here from Australia. As far as I know she is not dating anyone. Do you think she will miss me or forget about me? I have let her know that I am dating someone else as she suggested but this is not really true as I not yet really over her.

Any suggestion anyone?

[MnkyGirl]

I think you need to move on...

 

So what if she is coming back, don't let her come back and find you thinking about her...if you truly want her show her that you are busy and have a life, that you are hurt but not devistated. I think you do need to move on though, she is the one that broke up with you...

[sarah_LR]

What! You feel bad after she break up with you and admitted she had cheated on you, what wrong with you? Seriously! She should be the one feeling bad after what she did, oh yeah she over you. You need to realize she was over you when she was in Australia. You didn’t see each other for 2 month, some peoples trench to loose feeling after not see each for such a long time. Even those you talk or e-mail her everyday its doesn’t make a different as seeing each other. I really don’t know why, but its like that’s. you think she a wonderful person u never stop to think you’re a wonderful person too. who doesn’t need a girl who put you thought all these pain. She made u feel very important by telling you her most deepest secrets. Its doesn’t matter no more, your not with her anymore. You haven’t not been in contact for about a month and in two weeks, keep its that’s when she she coming back from Australia. If your not true really over her, then stop dating who ever your dating. What she suggested doesn’t really matter anymore. She over you that’s why she suggest your dating someone else. . Do u think she will miss me or forget about me? Here the answer to your question… well I think she won’t miss u and she well forget about you. If you want to get over her u can, but you don’t want to

Your not even trying. you lets her tell u to date. you need this time to heal your broke heart before dating anyone. MOVE ON!!!

[AtarisKid]

hey i know how you feel man....she says that she doesnt miss you anymore, it think that its a lie, girls lie, they will never tell you how they really feel, girls dont get over a relationship like that in just a month, im sure she misses you but doesnt want to be with you, thats life and it sucks, sounds to me like you need to move on and see other girls and not let her put you through so much pain, believe me there are better girls out there even if you think she the "one" she is very young and it comes down to that she doesnt know what she wants in life and most girls that age dont, i know this, i was with a girl that i thought i was absolutely in love with, thought she was the one...we she went to college and decided that there was a better life out there than me, believe it hurt like hell and she put me through two months of toture, but i got over it, i starting hanging out with other girls and realized that there is so much better out there and my ex was a complete waste of my time, cause she was soo immature and all we did was fight, it was drama drama drama with her, i dont need that crap, im 22 i know what i want in my life, thats why i decided to only date girls that were older than me cause most of them have there priorities straight and thats what i want...

 

the best thing that you can do is let it go man, move on, dont contact her or anything, let her come to you in a way, if she REALLY loved you, she would nt have cheated on you or put you through that emotional BS...just give yourself some time to heal, start focusing on you for a change and not worry about her...if she wants to talk to you she knows how to get a hold of you...right now do stuf for you, if she does get a hold of you, make it look like your doing just fine with out her, then maybe she might realize what she lost, sometimes it happens this way, but all together i would just let it go and move on to better, believe me its out there you just have to find it

[RescueDiver]

Let her go dude, I was in the same situation you are in. My last long term girlfriend cheated on me and then broke up with me two months later. We did eventually get back together but things were never the same again. We got into fights a lot easier and more frequently, we didn't compromise or meet each other half-way as much, and we didn't talk about our future as much either. When she broke up with me again a year after we had gotten back together (even though at times I wanted the relationship over because it was going so poorly) it still hurt just as bad if not worse. Take it from someone who has been there. Cut your losses and move on.

[BrknHrt]

I know exactly how you feel. I am so glad I found this board because for the past month I have felt so alone. My boyfriend of 5 years(lived with me for the past 3 years) broke up with me a month ago and had a new girlfriend 4 days later. He says he doesn't love me anymore and never wants to see me again and I physically feel like I can't go on. Everyone will tell you to go have fun and not worry about her but I know how hard it is, people have been telling me that but I can't go have fun without thinking about how much fun we used to have together. I know what your going through and I hope it gets easier for you.