lionheart Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 My girlfriend broke up with me 4 days ago and i really want to be with her, but she says she wants to be on her own, because of what has happened to her and that she needs to find out who she is again. I am 25 and she is 23 and we have 2 children, which one is a child from her previous relationship but i love him like my own. It all started back in June we had a flat fire which has caused us both a lot of stress. And she has been very depressed ever since. I also have been under stress and kept it from her as i didn't want to add to her problems. Lately i know i have been very selfish and maybe not shown the love i should of and maybe not given the support she needs to get back on track. Our constant arguing has made her want to be on her own. She said she wanted a break away from me at first, then yesterday i phoned her and she said that she wants to end it for good. She still says she loves me and would like to be with me but that she needs to start thinking about herself. I know that she has completely ended it because i kept texting and ringing her telling her that i don't want to lose her but now i feel i have made things worse. I just want to show her that i can change my ways and that i want to support her and the kids. Can anyone give any advice? Ireally love her and really don't want to lose her.
Sad green eyes uk Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 If she is depressed then there is a good chance that while she may feel she loves you, she can't give you what you need. My advice to you would be, let her know you care for her and will be there if she needs you, but also let her know you respect her feelings and will leave her alone until she is ready to open up to you.
slubberdegullion Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 ...she needs to find out who she is again... she needs to start thinking about herself If I had a penny for every time I've heard the phrase, "I need to find myself" and various permutations of the same intent, I'd be swimming in pennies. It's narcissistic self-help psycho-babble which actually means, "I'm selfish and I don't care about your feelings." Undoubtedly she didn't start out like this - or if she was like this, she hid it well - but as we all know, people change when they figured that they've got it made in a relationship. ...i kept texting and ringing her telling her that i don't want to lose her but now i feel i have made things worse...( Yes, actually you have. It's just a reminder to her that she "needs space." So back off entirely, just like sad green eyes uk says. Good luck.
Author lionheart Posted November 27, 2005 Author Posted November 27, 2005 Thanks guys i need all the advice i can get to stop the hurting and to help me understand, but no matter how much i try and forget her i cant help it. It seemed as if we would be together forever until a few days ago and now all of a sudden its over.
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