jessica77 Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 So, I thought I'd finally ask this question...is it really true that men are from Mars and women from Venus? Then, how did we both land up on earth:) No, seriously I wonder if the characteristics of men and women are truly that different or we just like to convince ourselves that it is so.... Any thoughts or comments????
Sloppy Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 LOL! Yes, it is true. Not sure if those planets are accurate though Have you read the book?! It's so funny to read!
Author jessica77 Posted November 27, 2005 Author Posted November 27, 2005 Hi sloppy, ya ,I have read the book, but I am not convinced!!! So, I started this discussion. Any other thoughts on this.
Outcast Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 Much of what Gray says is true and based on how men and women genuinely interact. He blew the 'man code' by revealing that men need approval and love, too. Don't make him your only expert on relationships - there are other great ones like John Gottman, Willard Harley, and Gary Chapman but Gray's good. His newer book on nutrition and moods for men and women is also very good and strongly based on good science.
Sloppy Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 If nothing else, it could help you understand some communication and other issues.
whichwayisup Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 This is the rule book as I try to understand it... MEN: Short, sweet and to the point. If something is bugging them or you've pissed them off and they want to talk about it, they will. If not, then don't worry about it. Chances are whatever it is that is upsetting or pissing them off will go away on it's own or they're just not ready to talk ... Yet. Though, when they DO talk, listen. Don't give advice and say you should do this/that...Just let them get it out. Unless help is asked, don't give it. Men need to feel needed, wanted and desired - and loved, which is tied into sex. WOMEN: We need to talk things out - More for emotional wellness. We need to know why, how, when, where, who. It's just part of who we are. We love to fix things and help others, we need to feel needed and loved, and the emotional side is tied into sex too. Not fully awake at this moment, had a nap. Hope that makes enough sense! Another thing which is important - Let men be who they are. Don't expect him to 'change' into a fantasy man you've created in your head. That just will lead to disappointments. Accept and love him as he is. And the same goes for men loving their own woman.
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