Ptowndude06 Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 Well we broke up shortly after our year anniversary as just a break. Well we hung out still and were still in love, well shortly after my best friend went after her and they started talking, and kissed and she lied about it. Well then I told her he was player and a liar, but she had to figure it out on her own so she did. So they were nothing, then she came to me sayin sorry and all this crap. And asked if i'd ever go back out with her, i said yeah but i didnt know. So after time she went for another guy for about 2 days she thought he was gay. So then she went to an even worse guy, lied to her but they were never really anything. After her being lied to, on her friends Xanga, she wrote all guys are a**holes well except one, tony...he's a great person and really sweet...he gave me everything....he's really great...when it comes down to it....so now i'm tryin to play hard to get...and not calling her and all this and having the i dont care attitude....i'm sure she still loves me and cares about me....and i know i can't possibly move on through all this bc if i've held on through all this....im serious about her...so i'm wondering what I should do to get her back???? Please help!!!! Lover in distress!!!!!!
bigbrowneyes Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 Ptowndude, I can tell you from experience that the second chance doesn't work! I was devastated when I found out that my fiance' cheated on me and life was seemingly impossible to live without him. After about 9 months of begging and pleeding, he finally talked me into giving him another chance. I knew in my heart that this was an extraordinary risk. He made several promises to me when we got back together, one of which included the fact that he would never do anything to hurt me like that again. Needless to say, he did disappoint me by leaving town to attend a PT convention. He left without giving me the name of the hotel and any contact number (he no longer owns a cell phone since that was the error of his ways the last time). I discovered the name of the hotel where the convention was being held and called. Surprisingly enough, no one was registered in the hotel by his name. I called every hotel in the state and the surrounding area and nothing. He finally called me on Sunday and left me a message on my cell phone explaining that he was on his way home....like I cared. Little did he know that there was a nice message on his answering machine at home informing him that there was no need to contact me in the future and thanks for the good times. Of course he tried to justify his wear abouts by saying that the hotel room was registered in his female employees name. And to justify it further, he exclaimed that they share the room for financial reasons. As if this story made me feel better...I mean sharing a hotel room with another woman for the weekend in NY...after he has a history of sleeping with his employees and his clients. I wasn't born yesterday! There comes a time when you have to smell the coffee brewing. I believe that people make mistakes and can change but more often than not, they do not. If you're GF has the propensity to behave as you discribed in your post, she will not make some miraculous change because you are playing hard to get. If you continue to tolerate her behavior than she will continue to disapoint you. We teach people how to treat us and you are giving her the message that you will always condone her careless handeling of your heart. Be strong and remember that if she thinks you're awesome so will the next girl. And the next girl will be even better because you will be careful not to tolerate any disrespectful behavior.
Tylerslovingfather Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 You need to realize that you do not need her. Tell her that you are better off as friend anyway. Do not talk about serious issues with her, and always remember she choose to do what she did, and are you going to settle for being her second best? The man waiting in the wings while she has all the fun? I have settled to be second best, and you will only end up more hurt then you already are trust me on that.
RescueDiver Posted November 28, 2005 Posted November 28, 2005 Well we broke up shortly after our year anniversary as just a break. Well we hung out still and were still in love, well shortly after my best friend went after her and they started talking, and kissed and she lied about it. Well then I told her he was player and a liar, but she had to figure it out on her own so she did. So they were nothing, then she came to me sayin sorry and all this crap. And asked if i'd ever go back out with her, i said yeah but i didnt know. So after time she went for another guy for about 2 days she thought he was gay. So then she went to an even worse guy, lied to her but they were never really anything. After her being lied to, on her friends Xanga, she wrote all guys are a**holes well except one, tony...he's a great person and really sweet...he gave me everything....he's really great...when it comes down to it....so now i'm tryin to play hard to get...and not calling her and all this and having the i dont care attitude....i'm sure she still loves me and cares about me....and i know i can't possibly move on through all this bc if i've held on through all this....im serious about her...so i'm wondering what I should do to get her back???? Please help!!!! Lover in distress!!!!!! You can move on, and you may have to so you had better get used to that idea because there is no sure way to get your ex back. If there was I'm sure everyone would know about it. Why did you guys break up anyway?
RecordProducer Posted November 28, 2005 Posted November 28, 2005 Well we broke up shortly after our year anniversary as just a break. Why did you take this break and who initiated it? She? So she can date other guys? In that case keep playing hard to get. She must take you seriously and take responsibility for her decisions before you get back together. If she suggested the break and knows that you still love her, I think she should be the one to suggest the resumption of your relationship. Perhaps you could be friends and "keep an eye on her" and see if she has grown a bit more mature by now.
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