Do we doom ourselves?

[kellyp1]

Hey guys -

Haven't posted in awhile. So, I am dating a guy I met Oct. 29th at a singles party. He has called me every day since we met. My problem is, how can I tell if he really likes me? We have hung out 6-7 times so far but it is never really planned in advance. Last night, he came and hung out with my friends and I (this was our first outing without it being just us) but when it was over, he gave me a quick kiss and left.

 

So, am I overthinking as it has barely been a month or should I be concerned that our dates so far have not been planned? A girl's perspective tells me he is keeping his options open which is why he does not plan in advance but maybe it is just that it is too new. Am I dooming myself by overthinking this?

[Sloppy]

And how do you feel about the dates? Were they good dates, average, bad?

I think you are overthinking it. It sounds like he's been pretty laid back and respectful, taking it slow. That's a good thing.

Why don't you ask him next time?

[kellyp1]

They were good dates just I have never met a guy that did not want to make sure I was free to see him. And I have gotten burned enough by meeting guys that only wanted one thing that I feel like I can't tell the difference anymore.

 

I will ask him, just didn't want to seem like I was overthinking. But you have to start the communication on the right foot and I want to make sure he and I have the same thing in mind as we see each other more.

 

Thanks!

[CoolAunt]

Kellyp1, if you haven't slept with him yet he continues to call daily, then he obviously doesn't want that one thing. Maybe he's one of those folks who aren't planners. Maybe he doesn't have the money to take you out so he plays it by ear each day, just calls to see what's going on.

 

Anyway, a guy's not going to call you every day if he doesn't like you. Listen to Sloppy and don't overthink things.