hokedonsocer9 Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 Ok here's the situation. It dates back for awhile. My friend Sam introduced both myself and my best friend Linda to his friend John back in February. Linda and I both thought John was cute but she vocalized it and I didn't. So when I found out that he was into me and not her I didn't do anything about it. Linda had tried talking to him but he didn't seem interested in more than just a friend. We recently went out with Sam and John was there, my old "crush" for John returned. Linda hadn't really said anything so I assumed the coast was clear. I had been debating whether or not to ask him out or not. Asking guys out is not something that I normally do. I wanted to talk to Linda about it but I honestly didn't think it would be a big deal, and everyone that I mentioned it to said don't worry about it nothing ever happened with them and that was a while ago. Well one night both John and I had been drinking and he ended up asking me out. I said yes and now Linda is made at me because I never told her that I liked him and that I was thinking about asking him out. I told her that I wouldn't go out with him if it bothered her, but she said it would be fine. We ended up going out and we had a blast. But the next day I could sense that Linda was upset about something. She said she feels betrayed. I have tried explaining everything and I told her just tell me what to do. If she doesn't want me to go out with him again I won't but she said that that won't make it any better, and that I should have said something to her before when I was thinking about asking him out. Should I not be going out with this guy? She feels that I have betrayed her. I really like this guy and I think it could possibly go somewhere but I don't want to ruin the friendship with LInda. WHat should I do? I'm so confused! Hoked
CoolAunt Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 Your friend is being very demanding and unreasonable. IMO, she's not upset or feeling betrayed because you never told her that you liked John or had considered asking him out. After all, regardless of what you'd thought about before, it turned out that he asked you out, not the other way around. I could understand her feeling betrayed if she and John had had a relationship and he had treated her badly. As it is, though, there was no relationship between John and Lynda, neither you nor John have been disloyal or unkind to Lynda, and she has no reason to feel betrayed. IMO, she's just plain jealous because he wasn't interested in her but has asked you to go out with him.
Author hokedonsocer9 Posted November 27, 2005 Author Posted November 27, 2005 Cool Aunt thanks for your reply but if that really is the case how do I bring that up without sounding like a bitch or making her upset?
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