ms_jnj Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 At least on these stupid online dating sites. Oh I KNOW. I am trying the online dating thing for the first time myself. And 4/5 of the men that I get "matched" with......I feel really bad but they are very unfortunate looking. Which makes me wonder if it is a dating site thing, which makes me wonder what that says about ME. At this point, if the person won't show a photo right away I don't communicate with them, because if these other guys could put a photo up they sure can....and having seen what is out there, they couldn't be much worse. I don't really like how some dating sites let you choose to not share your photo right away. I mean I can sort of understand it but it seems sneaky or something...what exactly are you trying to hide? If you get through the whole process and like each other, you will meet and then she will see if you are ugly anyway. And, I mean it isn't like I want a model or anything, an average guy will do. Sheesh, I'd be happy with some plain ole average guys....I don't even mind recending hair or a little extra weight, (hey those things happen, that's life) But the guys I've seen on the site so far have far worse physical flaws than that. Really, let's face it --chemistry is important, being attracted to a potential romatic partner is important. And sometimes a guy can be fine looking but I personally am not attracted, it doesn't mean he's a troll, he just isn't my type. So it is important to know what the other person looks like. But anyway....I hear ya....there are a very few guys on the site I use that I'm attracted to. And it's expensive so when my subsciption expires this month, that's it, I'm letting it go.
Outcast Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Nobody looks like their photo. If photos are all you base your opinion on, you're missing out on some great opportunities.
justagirliegirl Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 This is a very interesting thread. I didn't realize how important looks were above being treated well and having common interests? Just wondering what your age range is here? I used to go for just the pretty boys. Appearance isn't going to matter one bit when you are both 70. After my divorce, I completely changed what I was looking for. He didn't have to be GQ model or anything like that. I put an age limit 10 years either way but even that fell by the wayside. By not focusing on perfect looks, I have been in the very best relationship ever. I am very turned on by him and he is a wonderful lover. He is also smart, funny, and good to me.
CaliGuy Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 JAGG, if there is no physical attraction, everything else will suffer. I mean if you aren't physically attracted to someone, what will make you want to get to know them better? It's a silly primal urge we have, and I agree there's more to a spark than looks, but looks do play an important part in getting to initial interest, like it or not, that's just how it is.
Outcast Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 By not focusing on perfect looks, I have been in the very best relationship ever. I am very turned on by him and he is a wonderful lover. He is also smart, funny, and good to me. So nice to see a sensible post for a change.
grace2005 Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 I want to make sure a woman dates me for the right reasons and not because of my handsome looks. I've lost 11 lbs in the last month since I broke up with my ex. The women better not come after me when I lose more weight in the future because then I know they're only interested in my physical appearance. I'm losing weight for my own health and so I can fit into more of my pants not because I want to attract somebody. Physical attraction is not a priority for me when I'm looking for a mate. My last 2 exs were overweight. That didn't bother me at all. I was only concerend for their health but that's it. I was in love with what I saw in their souls. I believe you could be missing out on alot if you turn someone down based on their physical apperance. You don't know where the relationship could have led. But hey if someone does not like me because of the way I look then that's their problem and loss not mine. It aint my fault that they are picky. Lonestar I have read alot of your posts from dreamguy's threads back in the summer of 2004. I always found your comments interesting. I recently joined this site in october of 2005. Dreamguy's thread about no contact was the first one I discovered on this site back in september 2005. It seems like alot of posters from his threads are not here anymore but you are.
Author Lonestar Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 This is a very interesting thread. I didn't realize how important looks were above being treated well and having common interests? Just wondering what your age range is here? Looks, to me, are just as important as being treated well and having common interests. Maybe not for you, and that's fine, but I need a great guy who turns me on every time I look at him. Why should I date a fugly person? Just because he's a nice guy? No, I need and want both. I have dated unattractive men in the past and the physical side of the relationship was seriously lacking. No passion = no sex. And let me tell you that a man with average looks can be as much of a jerk as a pretty boy.
Author Lonestar Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 Lonestar I have read alot of your posts from dreamguy's threads back in the summer of 2004. I always found your comments interesting. I recently joined this site in october of 2005. Dreamguy's thread about no contact was the first one I discovered on this site back in september 2005. It seems like alot of posters from his threads are not here anymore but you are. dreamguy disappeared a long time ago. I think I am the only one left from that thread. Not too many people that come through here become LS lifers.
noclobber Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Why should I date a fugly person? :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao:
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