Does a rebound guy ever get a second chance?

[ohzee]

This is an interesting topic. Interesting because, I am the rebound guy. I fell in love with a girl that took my heart into her hands and completely melted it. She is everything I have looked for in many years. This was someone you would want to spend the rest of your life with. Never a disagreement, dislike, perfection at it’s best, in every possible way. Not just by my point of view, but hers as well. Communication could not be better; in short we lived for each other. To shorten my experience a bit, Saturday we spent the day enjoying each other as we always did. Sunday morning, I called to confirm plans for the day. She said the famous words we have all heard, “we need to talk”. Apparently, her ex who she works with in the same building had been asking her back for the duration of our committed relationship. Well, she finally gave in. She decided to give him a second chance. I am devastated. That relationship had not ended completely, and required complete closure. She kindly informed me that she needed to find out for sure that it was over, before she could continue with me. She did say, I am the greatest guy she had ever been with. (Ha Ha). After weeks of, “I love you” and “we will be back together soon”, coming from her. The communication reduced to, don’t contact me, I will contact you. The truth is she moved on with him and I am left damaged and broken hearted. Having done nothing to earn this treatment, I am totally confused. With no answers as to, why... I am here trying to find answers but I find very little to comfort me. I want her back completely. But I have to accept the fact that she is not coming back. That’s the hardest part. It’s not easy being the rebound guy. It hurts just as bad if not worse. I feel all of the pain going around this forum, and then some.

[omegaRED]

Did you know you were the rebound guy? Did she tell you how things with her ex were in the beginning of the your relationship? If she did... Then you shouldn`t have gotten involved in the first plase. I mean if things aren`t in the clear, there`s bound to be a broken heart here or there.

 

Avoid persons with emotional baggage. It`ll save you a lot of heartache. Just be carefull, look out for signs and don`t rush into things in the future.

 

Honestly, i have no idea why some here ask if there`s a chance to get back together with someone who left them FOR SOMEONE ELSE. I understand love, i know it, believe me, i know the pain and heartache, but people, HOW IN THE WORLD can you think you can get back together with someone who thought YOU WEREN`T GOOD ENOUGH, that SOMEONE ELSE WAS BETTER THAN YOU. This coming from the person you love. The person who really, REALLY loves you would never, EVER entertain the idea that someone out there is better than you, let alone act on it.

 

Forget them. They aren`t worth it. It`s hard, f**king hard, but they`re are not "the one". Simple as that.

[Brittanyjean06]

a rebound, can get another chance...only to get" used again"....and the chances are very slim, she loved her ex and went back to him...its the cold truth...and it hurts , i know but rebounds rarely work out unless anyone has their experiences where it has, can tell you.

 

when one gets out of a relationship, and is not over someone....the person they are presently dated is bound to get hurt.

 

Im sorry this happend to you and you had to fall in love with her..crap like that happens all the time and it sucks

 

the best thing you can do is not hope for a 2nd chance, she went back to her ex....your 2nd chance will be with someone else someday...

 

and if she did ever come back to you, i would look away...these people are out to make themselves feel better

 

 

good luck

[nextel]

Just move on. If you decide to make a go of things with her, she will do nothing but hurt you again. Dont let the cycle begin. Let her go. You sound like a good man, let it be her loss.

[Brittanyjean06]

Yep! going back to ex's ....TSK TSK TSK

 

 

 

 

 

hope i never do that :-x!