Rickymoemoe Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 I meet this girl about a month ago, she is a really sweet and good person. She is a girl I really like her personality and respect her choices. The problem is she is a girl who is stuck on dating older men 4-10 years older because of bad relationships she has had with men her age. I'd really like to strike up a friendship with her that could later someday lead to something more when I "prove" myself to her. Also I want to be friends and not date her because I am leaving the country in 6 months and I may not be back for years. Neverless, I still have a strong feeling she is a person I should know, weather it is too be friends or more someday. Any advice on how I can get her to accept me as a friend at least?
agnf666 Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 Well... since her past relationships with men her age has not went really well then the best route to go with her is friends. She needs to build up some trust into men her age. Since you are going out of town and not sure when you are coming back. Friendship would be the best thing for you. Try to write back and forth or call her. Keep intouch with her. Go with the Flow and take it slow...
LN8840K Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 striking up a freindship hoping for more some day after you prove yourself is something that happens in the movies and romance novels, it has given me bad results everytime ...suggest starting a date type relationship with her
Author Rickymoemoe Posted November 26, 2005 Author Posted November 26, 2005 Two interesting and valid points of view. One I see is from a girl who thinks that being friends is an ok route to try. The other from a guy who thinks the friends route is a waste. I need more input people on what others think!
slubberdegullion Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 The friend zone is a dreadful place to be, and an even harder morass to get out of. If, in the future, you see yourself wanting to become more intimate, she'll resist because she'll see you more as a big brother or just a buddy rather than someone she can get to know in a more romantic sense. It's all or nothing, unfortunately.
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