sick of it Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 whats it mean when the girl blames you for everything for a breakup of a 5 1/2 year relationship. takes no respnsibility for it. tells you she doesnt want to jump into anything with anyone, wants to be her own person, doesnt want to pursue anyone. then changes her lifestyle, is partying (she never did), drinking (she never did), seeing a new guy and moving fairly quickly about it. Is this really her? is this a new her which is here to stay? is it just insecurities coming out? and is it possible for the dumper to go on a rebound and do you thnk thats what this is. ill be happy to give more infor about the situation.
smile95 Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 whats it mean when the girl blames you for everything for a breakup of a 5 1/2 year relationship. takes no respnsibility for it. tells you she doesnt want to jump into anything with anyone, wants to be her own person, doesnt want to pursue anyone. then changes her lifestyle, is partying (she never did), drinking (she never did), seeing a new guy and moving fairly quickly about it. Is this really her? is this a new her which is here to stay? is it just insecurities coming out? and is it possible for the dumper to go on a rebound and do you thnk thats what this is. ill be happy to give more infor about the situation. I could be wrong, you probably started dating at a young age right? Most girls go thrugh a stage where they party because they think they are missing something by being committed(esp if they have been dating the same person since high school). Those are all excuses she gave you. My guess is she will see that the party life gets old and she will come crawling back. People blame others all the time. It is nothing you did I am sure. Let me guess.....she is between 19-22???? You were together a long time. People change. Maybe it is time that you start dating too. If you were together that long, you probably have not dated others either. I know it hurts, but sometimes you just have to do it.
Author sick of it Posted November 26, 2005 Author Posted November 26, 2005 we did start dating in high school. yes, she just turned 22. however, we've been apart for 6 months. shes been seeing someone for 3 of those and like i said, moving quickly. everything is very unlike her (how she used to be). The kicker is that she did this to me after i moved home from school to be with her. i left my friends and social network behind. i moved home to be with her and i have no one around. i would start dating but im still in love with her and i dont think thats right. she was also my first and only anything so dating is very foreign to me. This all kind of came out of nowhere. 6 months later i should probably be used to it or over it, but im not by anymeans. you still think shell come crawling back?
smile95 Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 I cannot predict what she will do, but do you still call her? If you stop, thenmshe will wonder, but maybe you need to tell her how you feel? That way, you can get answers and move on
Author sick of it Posted November 26, 2005 Author Posted November 26, 2005 i have talked to her. i have told her i felt. i get upset because shes with someone, i know its denial on my part. but the reasons for breaking up i know are untrue, or lies. do i need to accept it or am i allowed to get answers. will the answers help me move on. because so far i havent been able to.
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