looming guest Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 I've been in a relationship with a great, caring person for just over 3 years. We had known eachother from work a year before we started dating. This is my first actualy (non-public school) relationship. We have had some good times and some hard time, but we both seem to let anything that happens blow itself over. At times i find myself hating the idea that i need to spend time with this person and our conversations usally involve alot of talking from their end and a whole lot of pretending to listen from me. I just can't seem to be interested in the vast majority of conversations we have. During the last week i have started to see one of my best friends in a new light, we have spent the last few nights talking together and having a great time, but there is growing sexual tension between us. For the last 2 years we have been best friends, drinking, playing games, talking and just doing random crazy things together and always having a great time. I'm stuck and i don't know what to do, i don't want to lose either of them as friends, but i can't figure out how to deal with the situation. I see it that either way i go i am going to lose a friend and hurt them deeply. I need help, please give me any advice you can. Thanks
temptris33 Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 You need to completely end the relationship with your g/f. Don't say that you need space or any excuse like that. You need to be honest with her and tell her that her friendship means a lot to you and you dont want to do anything to jeapordize that. You need to do this before you explore anything further with the 2nd friend. I'm not sure what your feelings are with your g/f. You didn't say if you loved her or not. We always think that there is something better out there but just remember "The grass is NOT always greener on the other side". If you start something with the 2nd friend you need to keep in your mind that you are stepping out of friendship and onto the next level. You never know how things will turn out once you take it up from "friends". If she is your best friend, I suggest you not take it further unless you are willing to lose her. We never know how romantic endings will be...good or bad.
Author looming guest Posted November 27, 2005 Author Posted November 27, 2005 It's a hard situation, I've found myself with a person who i could be very happy with in later life, but at this point i don't want the "settled down" type of living that comes with dating this girl. I feel like i have found the person i am meant to be with, but much to soon for it to last. I've been pulling myself away and trying to figure out if i am in love with her, or just love her as a friend. This thing has got me confused as hell. Anyone else ever dealt with something like this? please let me know how you did it. I need all the advice i can get.
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