looming guest Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 I've been in a relationship with a great, caring person for just over 3 years. We had known eachother from work a year before we started dating. This is my first actualy (non-public school) relationship. We have had some good times and some hard time, but we both seem to let anything that happens blow itself over. At times i find myself hating the idea that i need to spend time with this person and our conversations usally involve alot of talking from their end and a whole lot of pretending to listen from me. I just can't seem to be interested in the vast majority of conversations we have. During the last week i have started to see one of my best friends in a new light, we have spent the last few nights talking together and having a great time, but there is growing sexual tension between us. For the last 2 years we have been best friends, drinking, playing games, talking and just doing random crazy things together and always having a great time. I'm stuck and i don't know what to do, i don't want to lose either of them as friends, but i can't figure out how to deal with the situation. I see it that either way i go i am going to lose a friend and hurt them deeply. I need help, please give me any advice you can. Thanks
mazza32cott Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 The firl you are with for three years assumes you both have a committment to each other. You say that at times you do not like to spend time with her or listen to her, so the commitment from your end is not there. You like this other girl and you are becoming sexually attracted to her. Do not be an ars****, make up your mind who you want and let the other one go. That is the only solution. It is not fair to pretend and it is not fair to leave someone hanging on and you cannot have your cake and eat it. DO NOT be selfish about this. One has to go. You may not like that but that is reality. Maz
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