My parents want me to break up with him!! what should i do???

[nadia_watt]

one night me and my boyfriend were driving aroud and i didnt come home until 4 in the morning and both my mom and dad were waiting for me to arrive. when i did my boyfriend didnt come in cuz he had to get home too. but then my dad was really freaking out and he said that my boyfriend was a puss and a chicken **** because he didnt come in and face the lecture with me, but i told them that he had to get home. but my dad still said that he didnt want me to talk to him or even hang out with him ever because he said i dont deserve anyone who is a chicken **** and wont respect me. but my boyfriend loves me with everything he has and would die for me. and i also love him with all my heart.

 

i didnt break up with him, but my parents think we did and im tired of trying to hide it from them. What do you think i should do?? what should i tell my boyfriend?? what should i tell my parents?? please any advice would work. thanks, i really appreciate it!!

[jasmine111]

tell your bf what your parents said. Maybe since your dad thinks he's chickensh*t for not confronting them then have your bf meet your parents sometime and take the lecture from them like they wanted to and hopefully it'll make up for that night. Have your bf explain to them that he NEEDED to get home....By the way, why did you come home at 4am? That could be another reason they dont want you seeing him.

[RescueDiver]

This is the expected parental response to when you've been out to 4AM. Hate to do this, but you should have known better than that. If my son or daughter had done that I'd be all over their case too. They're of course worried about you being out and having sex, getting hurt, getting into drugs and or alcohol.

 

Depending on what your parents are like, you might try having your boyfriend come over and clear the air with them. It'll show courage and responsibility. If he can successfully come off as showing your parents that he is responsible and respectable they may lay off the pressure. He has to be ready for that though because I can tell you it isn't going to be pleasant. Then if I were you I would see about maybe having him over at your parents for dinner more or something so they can get to know him better. This is all stuff that you should've done in the first place, but no sense worrying about that now.

[CoolAunt]

He'd die for you? What makes you think that? He wouldn't even risk getting in more trouble at home by coming in and facing your dad.

 

Like RescueDiver, I can see where your dad is coming from. You should be glad that you have a dad who cares enough about you to put his foot down even knowing that he won't be popular in your eyes for doing so. When it comes down to it, your dad is the man in your life at this poing who really would die for you.

 

As Jasmine and RD have suggested, your bf needs to face your dad and get back in his good graces...and never bring you home that late again.

[Milo]

How old are you? Maybe 16 or so? It seems like that's the general age for driving. Well, for one, your dad forbidding you from seeing your boyfriend isnn't a good move. That you will go behind his back is a freaking given. Who wouldn't? It's not like he is a drug-dealing, murderer for bringing you home at 4AM. But your dad is right, the boyfriend is a wuss. He needs to say he's sorry to your dad and that it will never happen again without a phone call and a reason. So get it handled and see what happens.