David18 Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 Why does it hurt so bad... was with this girl for 6 months... she was my REAL first girlfriend... i lost my virginity to her... we would make out for 30-40 minutes at a time... and we just broke up and its so hard... i miss everything about her... i think about her with another guy and it just kills me is it because she my first? and its hard to even think about her with another guy? she was 21 and i was 18... she was so experienced. which made it so good... have in my mind her with another guy and it just Kills m inside it hurts so bad.. cause she was my first i ever did anything with.. does it get easier later on? :/
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 when you love someone, and that love is gone...it will hurt deeply. she was your first love as you can say, and those hurt the worst...there ment to hurt , supposed to hurt and teach you a lesson in the end everyone says it gets better later on, its been 3 months since my 3 year relationship went to crap, and it can be more devasating as time goes by ,,,only to remind you of what you lost, but than it gets better i think. im sorry, but we all go through this sometime in our lives
slubberdegullion Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 I remember it well, the loss of the first love. And I remember the hurt and the feelings of betrayal and all the rest of it. The memories of burying my face in her hair (on her head... you sickos), inhaling her scent, her touch, her taste, her kiss, her body against mine... and ever song on the radio is about her, and every thought is about her and the awful emptiness in the pit of your stomach never goes away... You never really forget your first true love. It will get easier in time, but for right now, feel these feelings. Don't allow them to run your life, but you have a right to feel cruddy for a while. Denying them or deadening them with booze or drugs or meaningless sexual conquests won't help. You, like the beautiful Brittanyjean06 here, will be fine in good time. Why did you break up anyway?
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 emptiness in the pit of your stomach never goes away... You never really forget your first true love. QUOTE] the pain never goes away from your first true love?...people say you never really get over your first true love...than how can you love again? it just frightens me to having to think about your first true love forever??? ah wish it was 10 years later! ??? )
RescueDiver Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 It doesn't matter if you've been with someone for a month, six months, or six years if you had a connection with that purson it HURTS when it's gone. But the pain does eventually go away. I've had my heart broken so many times I've lost count but I've gotten through them all. Been on the verge of suicide a few times, but I'm still here. Each and every time though I wonder how I'll ever get over this one because it seems I liked them even more than the last one! The pain does eventually go away though and you won't always have a pit in your stomach about your first love. If you still do there are probably things that you haven't resolved or accepted yet. Once you've finally let go you will be free to remember the memories without the pain.
Sloppy Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 I am still in touch with my first love. It has been over 10 years now, we both have seperate lives and I had moved on a long time ago, but he still writes me love letters and declares his love for me. I have never forgotten him, either. I broke up with him because I was raped when I was saving myself for him and I felt dirty and worthless afterwards. You will always remember the first love, but with passing time the pain will mellow down and you will look at it with a smile on your face. You will have a good memory. Right now it hurts because you feel. That's a good thing. Do not ever regret having feelings for someone. When it's over, you will just have to deal with the pain, work through it and wait for the next great thing in life to come along. Being hurt is not only bad, it offers you a growing experience. Heartbreaks will always hurt, but with life experience you will see and feel it different. Don't try to push it away, it will just re-appear later. Just accept that it will hurt for some time and that it will go away with time. It is a good time to do a little inventory and see why it ended. I am sure there are many more better things awaiting you in your life.
luvtoto Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 I was once told that a broken heart is the same as a broken bone. Sure, it hurts like hell when it's first broken...then, after it has time to heal...however long & however bad the break is initially...eventually, you'll be back to normal again with time. But, you have to take it easy...and allow yourself time to heal. Don't take the cast off prematurely or you'll never heal correctly. That's just how I see it. I wish you well.
strengthnhope Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 Why does it hurt so bad... was with this girl for 6 months... she was my REAL first girlfriend... i lost my virginity to her... we would make out for 30-40 minutes at a time... and we just broke up and its so hard... i miss everything about her... i think about her with another guy and it just kills me is it because she my first? and its hard to even think about her with another guy? she was 21 and i was 18... she was so experienced. which made it so good... have in my mind her with another guy and it just Kills m inside it hurts so bad.. cause she was my first i ever did anything with.. does it get easier later on? :/ I know it hurts... one of the biggest factors of the pain was probably from you losing your virginity to her. and to think of her doing what you were doing with her must burn in your mind. here is a little advice i learned. whenever you start having those burning images, you better call someone or something, because it can kill you if you think of stuff like that. i'm going through a break up right now of 3 year relationship.. happened 5 days ago... whenever i have the slightest thought of her doing what i did with her with anyone else, doesnt matter in 1 years or 10 years later, i call someone, to get it off my mind, because its useless thoughts and it will cause brain damaging affects. got it? 3 years... i lost my virginity to her, and hers to me... it stabs me in the heart... but just get friends, keep it off your mind however you can...
Sloppy Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 Guys, I hope it all gets better for you. Keep us posted. Does posting here help you?
luvtoto Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 It's like therapy for me. I have gotten some of the best advice on LS. I used to burden my coworkers & friends with all my *issues*. I've quit doing that cause now, I can burdern you guys!! (and try to help people in the process) Haha!
Bogun Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 Why does it hurt so bad... was with this girl for 6 months... she was my REAL first girlfriend... i lost my virginity to her... we would make out for 30-40 minutes at a time... and we just broke up and its so hard... i miss everything about her... i think about her with another guy and it just kills me is it because she my first? and its hard to even think about her with another guy? she was 21 and i was 18... she was so experienced. which made it so good... have in my mind her with another guy and it just Kills m inside it hurts so bad.. cause she was my first i ever did anything with.. does it get easier later on? :/ The bad news is that if your first real relationship wasn't a total f**k up that you regret, I think there always will be a little bit of pain when you think about it. But the good news is that you will feel a lot wiser, and grateful that you had something special with someone even though it didnt last. Think of it like an initiation into the adult world. I am still in touch with my first love. It has been over 10 years now, we both have seperate lives and I had moved on a long time ago, but he still writes me love letters and declares his love for me. I have never forgotten him, either. I broke up with him because I was raped when I was saving myself for him and I felt dirty and worthless afterwards. Sloppy I hope you still dont feel worthless. But doesnt it hurt to still be getting love letters from the guy?
Sloppy Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 Sloppy I hope you still dont feel worthless. But doesnt it hurt to still be getting love letters from the guy? No it doesn't hurt. It only hurts knowing that he is still struggling thinking what could be if.... He has a child and a wife now. I don't feel worthless, either. I have worked through that. I do feel worthless about other issues, but that's a whole different story. It might be related to what had happened, but I need to face reality, not live in past. Thanks.
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 dang people where was i when all these posts were posted haha.... its good to here that you wont always be in love with your first love.....but if he still sends you love letters after 10 years...gosh what if i wind up like that!, love made me crazy, made me do crazy things for 3 years.....how do you get over that obsession?.... people say" you never forget your first true love".... well how canyou forget all your other loves? we all feel your pain, or have felt it
Sloppy Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 One song says: "How many times can you love...really love? One time is too many..." I don't know. Each relationship feels different, each time I love is a different kind of love. I know I have loved, truly loved. That guy will be in my heart forever. That love means loving him unconditionally, accepting that he will not be "my" love.
Author David18 Posted November 27, 2005 Author Posted November 27, 2005 Wow Strength.. you know exactly what im talking about! yeah shes been with 3 guys befor me.. which she has a kid by one of them.. but we were together 6 months.. and i couldnt picture her with another guy after ive been with her.. it kills me to picture that... her having sex with another guy just KILLS ME! i can't stand to even think about it.... And we broke up because she might have cervical cancer and has to do operation and she doesn't want to put me thru all that... and we didn't get to see each other much cause she works full time and i did too.. and she also had a kid to take care of.
Woggle Posted November 27, 2005 Posted November 27, 2005 I wish I could forget my first love ever existed.
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