LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 One more question ...sorry people I've had too much coffee and I'm on call for another 4 hours so please pardon me .... someone trys to dump you you call them 2 days later and ask for them clarification ( 1 ) the refuse to talk about it ( 2 ) they want to act like it never happened .......see ( 1 ) ( 3 ) when asking about certain things they said, they claim they did not say them could it be insecurity and a pre-emptive dump, thinking they were going to get dumped what are your thoughts
Mary3 Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 If you have been dumped and are offered no explantion then you have been callously dumped. It does not matter who did the dumping or if one intended to outdump the other. Dumper and Dumpee. You are one or the other...
Author LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 I can see your point Mary ........ I was talking about someone who tries to act like the dump never happened ....changing the story, saying they didn't say things they did in fact say ....as being some of main reason for the dump most calous dumps at least in my experience have involved a rapid cease in contact, not keeping the lines of communication open and changing stories anyone else have anything to say on this ??
Luvinit Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 Sounds strange. Has he done anything like this in the past? Were you two arguing when he tried to dump you?
Author LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 Ok Luvinit .... I am a man ...... so this is a female I'm talking about but when someone gives you ok this is why I'm dumping you then 2 days later they claim " I never said that, maybe you thought thats what I said but I didn't say it " almost like a take back anytime I have dumped with a I'm not talking about communication is cut ... not continued see the confusion thats why I wondering if it was a pre dump went bad
Luvinit Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 It could be what you suspect, but it is hard to say for sure. What I would say is that you should take it as a clear indication that she is not happy with something in the relationship. Maybe you could start with talking to her about the reasons she named on the phone with you, not being confrontational but instead being concerned and wanting to correct them... Maybe she will open up to you with her thoughts and you can take action to prevent the relationship for ending with another phone call.
Author LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 I tried doing that at first she strarted skipping around the subject, then it went to " I don't want to talk about it " ........ so I brought her main point up and she denied ever saying it, the other point I brought up she did not comment on either way and eventually the subject was changed, like nothing ever happened. it was a soft dump to begin with when I asked " does this mean we should just quit talking " she got angry ............. c'mon trix r 4 kids
Mary3 Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 You cleary see whats happening here right ??? She is setting you up for the real dump but is mind f**** with you now so you will look like the bad guy. She is started arguements because she wants a way out. Give it to her. Dump her today !
Author LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 the one thing I can see clearly is a game was trying to be played ..... I don't try and drag things out and hang on, when it goes down it's done ! the thing I was trying to figure out is if people might pull the trigger due to insecurity much like overseas seems to be doing in her post looking for any little sign they should flee .... everything was fine with this girl untill I told her I was moving, then it goes downhill and fast as far as dumping her, she drew first blood, and whats done is done. I do not care what she does at this point, but I was confused by the whole thing and thats why I asked.
Author LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 actually I did just that I said does it bother you i'm moving ? she said " what, what are you talking about ? " but never did answer
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