LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 what's up ...... if a women does not return your call, is she not interested ? if she never initiates a call, is she not interested ?
madisonian Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 The first: Yes. It may not be you, she may just be at a really busy time in her life, but this is generally a cue that you should stop, because either she's not interested, or she's so busy that attempting a relationship is just going to get very frustrating. The second: Not always, but generally if she doesn't initiate contact within the first 2 weeks, I figure that she's a dud and I move on.
MakeMeBeautiful Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I always make a point to return phone calls and emails promptly. At work we have an unwritten rule where we reply within 24 hours even if it is to say, "i'm sorry i don't have an answer for you yet but i'll work on it." I have the same rule for my personal life. If I will be away from email for a period of time, I will set up auto reply with alternate contact info. No one is ever too busy to take two minutes to return a call. i never initiate a call in the beginning of the relationship. Maybe I am old fashioned to let the guy do the pursuing.
Author LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 you say in the begining you dont initiate ....... how long usually ....I lived in Aurora for a long time .... just moved away like 7 months ago ... Thanks Make
CoolAunt Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 i never initiate a call in the beginning of the relationship. Maybe I am old fashioned to let the guy do the pursuing. Same here. Not only do men like to pursue women, there's still a double-standard that a woman who pursues a man is "easy" and not worth bothering with.
westernxer Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 If she doesn't return your call, she's not interested.
Author LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 Ok I got you ladies , thanks for taking the time to respond ..... too many games in the dating scene I agree west ...this one seems to return like every 3rd call
CoolAunt Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 It's not game playing. It's letting you guys take the initiative. Really, you get to do the picking and choosing. Oh, and return calls are perfectly okay for me.
westernxer Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I wouldn't even make it to the third call. No return call the first time is their answer right there.
Author LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 we may do the picking but you definitly do the choosing............. I'm kinda a pain in the azz west she has no answering machine so sometimes I call more than once a day ...she will return sometimes after 1st call sometimes later never more than 3 calls
madisonian Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 Same here. Not only do men like to pursue women, there's still a double-standard that a woman who pursues a man is "easy" and not worth bothering with. Not true. Men will sully the reputation of women who pursue other men in front of them, because it's divisive and rude. So, yeah, a girl who hits on other men within my eyeshot is going to get slammed for her rude behavior. However, men like being pursued, a lot. Just avoid doing it in front of other men.
Author LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 to be honest most women who have pursued me have been ....hmmmm how can I say this .....easy and most had real issues
whichwayisup Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 ....I lived in Aurora for a long time .... just moved away like 7 months ago ... Another Ontarian...Where did ya move to? Aurora is beautiful! Too much snow, but still a nice place to visit.
Author LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 I moved to a crap hole in New Mexico ...... it's a beautiful land but Im a city boy ...ya know
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