unicorn365 Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 Hello all, I am a 31 yo female virgin (I am attractive and in great shape). I am a virgin not for religious reasons, but for another reason. That reason is that I simply wont feel ready for sex until marriage. I have a normal libido (thank god for masturbation). However, my concern is how to deal with this subject when I date men; and how will men deal with me (am I unusual this day and age???). Are men willing to wait for a woman until marriage? Please help! ~Thanks in advance~
jayteresa Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 As a female I say generally not, but you may meet an older man who has had women in his time but may wait for you, do not know how you stand on this? Each to there own I say, but you will be hard pushed to find a decent man in a simular situation to you. Sadly we live in an over sexed world (with tV and films and what not) but I am sure if you search around abit you can find someone who feels like wise, never give up in what you believe, I believe that there is someone out there for all of us and our needs. 31 is nothing, you still have a lot of time to find 'your one', All is good!
Author unicorn365 Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 Thanks JT for your reply....to answer your question: he does not have to be a virgin; I just hope to find someone that respects my decision. Thanks again, JT!
jayteresa Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 No worries You sound like someone with their head screwed on, I hope you all the best!
Neptune Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 There have been a surprising number of thirty something virgins that have posted here on LS. Men and women. You may not be as rare as you think.
Panhandler Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I am about to turn 27 and I still concider myself a virgin, cause I have a big thing and have been with all tight chicks. I am so for religious and physical preferences, and I was on drugs for most of my life and thought sex sucked in comparison. All the emotions and problems, religious guilt trip, who needs it? But I don't see how it could be a problem, other than it's going to affect your social outlook on life. I know that it makes me a lot more picky about who's up to my standards, and that I am not going to chase after women like most guys who are just dieing to get some sex. But it starts to hurt you down the line when you pass up all these oppertunities and you feel lonely. Sex seems like a good way to bond and get close with a certain person. But in a true aspect sex doesn't have much to do with it, it's ones preference on when it's okay to have sex. Sometimes you have to look at yourself and say, hmmm well life doesn't seem to be working out in my criteria, maybe I should try harder to compromise my standards or decisions. But it still is a complexe factor, but I honestly don't think any guy would not like it. Most of them would be impressed, cause they are able to find a woman who hasn't been passed around and shallow like so many sluts out there.
whichwayisup Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I am about to turn 27 and I still concider myself a virgin, cause I have a big thing and have been with all tight chicks. I am so for religious and physical preferences, and I was on drugs for most of my life and thought sex sucked in comparison. How can you consider yourself a virgin when you've had SEX already PH? WTF! But it still is a complexe factor, but I honestly don't think any guy would not like it. Most of them would be impressed, cause they are able to find a woman who hasn't been passed around and shallow like so many sluts out there. Would you STOP saying that s***. You make it sound like ANY woman who has had sex with afew men is a SLUT. Did you ever stop to think that maybe it's the kind you tend to attract? The people you hung out with, maybe?? The only reason why you're posting to Unicorn is because she is a virgin and that caught your eye. (Unicorn, go read afew of his other posts, you'll be disguisted!) I am a 31 yo female virgin (I am attractive and in great shape). I am a virgin not for religious reasons, but for another reason. That reason is that I simply wont feel ready for sex until marriage. I have a normal libido (thank god for masturbation). However, my concern is how to deal with this subject when I date men; and how will men deal with me (am I unusual this day and age???). Are men willing to wait for a woman until marriage? Please help! I believe so. There are many men out there that will wait and be patient, you just have to make sure he's the right one for you. Just be yourself.
Rickymoemoe Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I don't really have much to say on your concerns, I just want to give you props for being a virtueous woman all this time. You will indeed find great happiness in life when you do find that man who respects you and your decision. I just hope that I can too be loyal to my virginity if I am to reach the age of 31 before I marry. I wish you the best of luck and I am sure you will come across it.
CoolAunt Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 It's a sad state of affairs when virtue is something to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. There's a lot to be said of people like yourself who live by your beliefs and principles. Kudos!
madisonian Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 It sounds like you don't have anything to be worried about. Some men will be willing to wait for marriage. Others won't, but I'm guessing that their values will be incompatible with yours anyway, so no loss.
ANUEME Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 My hat goes off to you!! Wish i had waited. There are men out there who will wait. Can't say I've come across any yet, but maybe its because not many women set those standards and make them wait. So its probably more out there than we think. Happy Hunting!!
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