madisonian Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 LostJeff: Read Johan's post carefully. What he says is very much on-the-ball. Dating a co-worker can do harm to your relationships with the rest of your officemates. Keep the "mating dance" out of the office as much as possible, and don't be "always together". Getting into the "couple bubble" is rude, and quite inappropriate in a professional setting.
johan Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 LostJeff: Read Johan's post carefully. What he says is very much on-the-ball. Dating a co-worker can do harm to your relationships with the rest of your officemates. Keep the "mating dance" out of the office as much as possible, and don't be "always together". Getting into the "couple bubble" is rude, and quite inappropriate in a professional setting. To be honest, Jeff, I think you'd benefit from reading all 1130 of my posts. I may have covered some other crazy stuff you may be thinking of doing.
AlmostMarried77 Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 To be honest, Jeff, I think you'd benefit from reading all 1130 of my posts. I may have covered some other crazy stuff you may be thinking of doing. You should read his posts too, it might benefit you. He has already said that he works in a crappy retail job that he doesn't care about. Staff turn over at those places can be high and getting a new job once you've worked in retail already is a straight forward proposition.
elijahBailey Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 Dude, I work in a low wage retail job. I don't care, and nothing will happen. I don't advocate dating your coworkers. But it sure looks like you don't care much about your job, and wouldn't be losing any sleep if you lost your job. In this case, go for it because nothing's at stake here.
littlekitty Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 To be honest, Jeff, I think you'd benefit from reading all 1130 of my posts. I may have covered some other crazy stuff you may be thinking of doing.
CurvyGurl Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I don't know guys, I am leaning on the side of if you meet someone attractive and the feeling is mutual, you should get together regardless of circumstances. I think you are looking fro someone to tell you what you want to hear. If you're going to do whatever you want to do regardless of the advice against it, why ask for opinions and validation? Just do it.
westernxer Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I think you are looking fro someone to tell you what you want to hear. If you're going to do whatever you want to do regardless of the advice against it, why ask for opinions and validation? Just do it. Amen to that.
westernxer Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I dont know, i think you guys are all being pretty hard on him. Reality is hard, especially when you have to work to support yourself. But he works in retail, which is shiity to begin with, so maybe he should hit and quit it.
blue16 Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 ...so maybe he should hit and quit it. Let's not get carried away. All he has said is that she smiled at him and scratched his back. You make it sound like a sealed deal Honestly I think this thread is more about lostjeff being happy that a cute girl seems interested in him, rather than actually wanting an answer about whether he should date her or not. If given the opportunity arises (let's say she asks him out for example) he's obviously going to say yes, no matter how many people on here disagree with him.
Author MarcoInaros Posted November 26, 2005 Author Posted November 26, 2005 Let's not get carried away. All he has said is that she smiled at him and scratched his back. You make it sound like a sealed deal Honestly I think this thread is more about lostjeff being happy that a cute girl seems interested in him, rather than actually wanting an answer about whether he should date her or not. If given the opportunity arises (let's say she asks him out for example) he's obviously going to say yes, no matter how many people on here disagree with him. I don't know how else to interpret her behavior. Why would a new girl smile at me and scratch my back on the way out? If she asked me out I would say yes. Would I ask her out? Not yet...I would need more evidence that she likes me, so that I would avoid an awkward rejection. Besides, I live in kind of a rural area and I don't meet that many girls outside of work or the gym. If the opprotunity arises, heck yeah I would say yes, consequences be damned. You can't spend your whole life worrying about sh*t, pardon my language. I haven't even kissed a girl, so I need this opprotunity. I'll see her again on tuesday so we'll see what happens.
BigB Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 You sound pretty young, and you work in retail, so I'd say go for it, but be careful. You can get a new job no problem. I will however, use a situation from my job as an example of how bad it can get. I'm a security guard, and my supervisor has been dating a secretary who works here for a few years. Most everyone knows about their relationship. A month ago they got into some kind of fight and broke up. Next day at work, he's screening his calls in the office because she's calling him over and over again from the next building where she works. He was also avoiding going anywhere near her office. She was very upset, and after a couple nights without sleep, not eating, etc. She proceeded to have some kind of panic attack and collapse in the hallway of the office. So, I get a call for a medical emergency, and my supervisor and I rush over to the building with our first aid kits, call 911, etc. When we arrived on the scene, she proceeded to scream and yell at my supervisor until the ambulance came to take her away. She did this in front of 20 or so employees. My supervisor couldn't however leave her alone because managing the emergency is his job. She got fired the next day, they are still dating....
elijahBailey Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 When we arrived on the scene, she proceeded to scream and yell at my supervisor until the ambulance came to take her away. She did this in front of 20 or so employees. oh shyt! He should dig a hole right there and stick his head in.
westernxer Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 I've seen it get ugly where I work as well, but maybe it's different in rural areas, since there aren't as many people as there are on my city block.
malachai Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 it seems like the overall consensus is that dating and/or getting seriously invloved with a co-worker should is not the best idea. i can't speak from personal experience, but i will say that i have seen a significant number of couples still married to their partner who they met through work. maybe times have changed, i don't know. but when you spend so much time with a person you work with, as long as you aren't jumping the gun, it seems like a very reasonable way to determine if someone is right for you or not. don't get me wrong, i've seen a couple of marraiges end between co-workers where both parties stay at the same company, and things are rough for quite a while. but the two couples i know that went through this managed through it, and are still working in their same positions. i really think it comes down to a risk vs. reward situation. you work with someone long enough and you get to know them, things might work out wonderfully. but the risk of having to go through a messy split, seeing eachother every day, might not be worth it, for some people. at any rate, i'm guessing that none of this matters for you, as it hasn't even got to that point yet
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