clhootie Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Has anyone heard of the three day rule regarding dating? A friend of mine told me if a guy doesn't call within three days of a first date he is most likely not that serious about having a relationship. And if he calls after then you are usually second or third choice. Or on a more serious page...if you have had sex with a guy does the same rule apply? If he hasn't called after three days then calls///is it a "keeping her hanging on as a possible bootie call" phone call? I tend to end up being treated badly by my boyfriends b/c I let them get away with things I shouldn't. If this three day rule is valid it would save me alot of pain and heartache. But I don't want to end up being a bitch to someone if it isn't true. Thanks for any of your opinions. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Don't give it up to him so quickly if you aren't sure about his intentions. This way you can filter guys more effectively. If he really likes you, he'll wait until you're ready, even if it means he has to suffer a little (but not too much). Sometimes you may still get burned regardless, but you can reduce the likelihood of this occurring if your head's on straight. We learn from experience, and dating is no exception. The three-day rule is actually pretty safe, but just keep an open mind. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Amorphous rules like the are for those who aren't confident enough to make their own decisions. Besides, what if the guy's crazy about you but hasn't heard of the rule? I mean, is there some sort of book or something? Or is it just "common knowledge" which is only common among a few people? Don't read anything at all into the timeline it takes for him to respond. Link to post Share on other sites
penkitten Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 men have a 3 day rule that is opposite. if you call before 3 days, you look pathetic and like you have no life and she will think you are desperate. see how different men and women can be? break the rules, they were meant to be broken.stop thinking what other people care about so much. give the guy a chance, if he doesnt like you , he simply isnt going to call you at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Altaira Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 I like slubberdegullion's response I posted a similar thread, "Getting a call from a man after first meeting" only, I wondered if instant messages can compensate at least for a while for the absence of a phone call. Given that there were instant messages which were very adoring, how long is acceptable for the man to call after a first meeting which wasn't a typical first date considering we were already very close before meeting? Link to post Share on other sites
CurvyGurl Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 I hate the 3 day rule. It's stupid. After 3 days I figure he isn't interested and I move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Altaira Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 I wonder why you follow a rule you hate? Link to post Share on other sites
johnnysparks Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Well, as a man I never had a really good system for when to call a woman back. For instance, when I met a woman out somewhere I'd gauge their interest on our conversation and body language, and if that was positive I'd ask for her number, but I didn't want to call the next day and look needy or desperate, but calling too many days later looked like I was too nonchalant apparently. Three days worked well for me I guess, but two is probably fine in most cases. J. Link to post Share on other sites
mini696 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Has anyone heard of the three day rule regarding dating? Yep. A friend of mine told me if a guy doesn't call within three days of a first date he is most likely not that serious about having a relationship. And if he calls after then you are usually second or third choice. Your friend is generalsing men... Thats always a dangerous thing to do. How do you know if he is serious after only one date? Second or third choice... Thats making a big assumption that he has choices. Or on a more serious page...if you have had sex with a guy does the same rule apply? If he hasn't called after three days then calls///is it a "keeping her hanging on as a possible bootie call" phone call? Not if you had sex with me... I tend to end up being treated badly by my boyfriends b/c I let them get away with things I shouldn't. If this three day rule is valid it would save me alot of pain and heartache. But I don't want to end up being a bitch to someone if it isn't true. The three day rule isn't valid, so no... It wont sace you heartache. Living by that rule will cause you more heartache. So dont be a bitch, and do some of the calling yourself. I just call someone I like, whenever I feel like it... There are no rules, and if you try to live by a set of them (rules), you are only playing games with yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
madisonian Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 I usually prefer that she call me. I'll usually wait a week, but if she calls me within a couple of days, I like that quite a lot. So, if you're sick of men waiting more than 3 days, pick up the phone and call them. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 I figure after a great date if I have not heard from him by 5 days then I assume he has no further interest. If someone likes you and has went out with you , they are going to call you within a few days. Don't doubt yourself on that. He didnt lose the piece of paper. Thats my own rule. It works for me and is pretty accurate. Link to post Share on other sites
CurvyGurl Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 I wonder why you follow a rule you hate? Who says I follow it? If a man waits 3 days to call me back, I generally dont answer the phone. I don't like games. Play them elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Jeez, the phone works both ways folks. If you are interested in someone then by all means call them when ever you want to don't wait for them to call you. If you are a woman calling a man and are worried that they might think negatively of your calling them, you have to ask yourself if you are willing to give up your right to chose (for the rest of your life) to a man. I have only recently heard of the 3 day rule and have never followed it. Based on my results in dating I'd say the rule does not apply to me and probably doesn't apply in anyone else's world either. Sometimes it's just not convenient to call within 3 days (or 5 days), sometimes I want to call within minutes of saying goodbye in person. WTF either we enjoy each other's company or we don't. I will never follow someone else's schedule to determine when it is the perfect time to call someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 26, 2005 Share Posted November 26, 2005 Of course there is nothing wrong with calling someone you had a great time with and letting them know. I have been known to do that too as well as invite them to do something again.. Link to post Share on other sites
the corinthian Posted November 26, 2005 Share Posted November 26, 2005 Has anyone heard of the three day rule regarding dating? There are no rules in dating. Take a moment to reflect on the general idea of dating. Now take a moment to ruminate on how rules could be applied to dating, rules that every person on every date should follow. Do you really believe that all interactions between people on dates must be governed by rules? Just use your best judgment. Every person is different and is going to expect something different out of a date. Link to post Share on other sites
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