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Hi everyone this is my first day on the job (so be easy on me)! I was with my ex for 3 years and a year out of those 3 we were engaged. We had problems off and on in our relationship (as many couples do) but for some reason we couldn't seem to keep the ball rollin'. So this past July we decided to move out of our living quarters and get our own spaces. During the summer months we were still sleeping together, chatting over the phone ,but we weren't doing "couple things" anymore. He suggests that we have "friends" in order to keep us both sane. I didn't agree...for one, because I didn't want another chic up on what i felt like was STILL my man....hell, we were still sleeping together for goodness sakes!! BUT.. I wasn't gonna stand in his way. If he wanted to have female "friends" cool... I guess I could deal with that;I mean what other choice did I have. So I cut off the sex..period...point blank. I had my little fun toys @ home so I was gonna be okay. :D

 

Thats when we started growing further and further apart. Our coversations dropped from 2x a day to about 3 or 4 x a week. One day while checking my mailbox, the most beautiful man I had ever laid eyes on approached me...he lived the same complex as myself..and asked me if I was attached..I told him sorta kinda..After a short conversation I decided he was worthy of my number. One conversation led to lunch/dinner dates. After 2 weeks of vibing with one another he asked me to accompany him to the beach. Needless to say I accepted. During all of this getting to know another man. My ex and I still chatted over phone sparingly.

 

Long story short.. I know you guys are tired of reading :o .My ex now knows my interest in this man is growing more intense so now he wants to reconcile. Lemme know people.. do I let go of the man I've shared three years of my life with or do I continue to learn more about the person who makes me feel as though we are the only two people on earth when we are together.. Security vs. happiness

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id say go for it with this new bloke it seems as tho the ex is only interested cos your moving on you never know the new bloke may be the love of your life, and if you did not pursue it and got back with your ex and things did not work out you will always wander

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now he wants you back because someone else is interested! I'd say forget it and go for it with the new man you have met. Obviously things would have worked out with your ex if they were supposed to, love should not be that hard.

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He was the one who wanted other 'friends'. Sounds like you are the one making them rather than him, hense sounds like his little plan has backfired so he is jealous. Trust me he wouldnt be bothered if he had some for himself. You go and have a great time, forget about him. Its not your fault your more appealing, his loss, his mistake!

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thanx you guys for showin a sista some love. I'm droppin his a**!

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Hooray, a success story!

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