loverrr Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 Hi Everyone, I am a newbie here so am not sure if this is the best section to post my whinge but will give it a whirl. We've only met a few times and i really like him so when he called me today for work related stuff I said towards the end of the conversation "Are you at work 2morrow?" He said "Yes, until 4pm" And then i said "did you want to come past for coffee after work"? And he went all weird with "Sorry"? In a really "WHAT?" Kind of tone. Then i said iam only around the corner from you "did you want to stop in for a coffee"? He said "on no not tomorrow after noon, i am busy then got things to do, not a good idea" Then i said "How about some other time"? And he didn't respond but got all mumbly and sounded like he was dropping the phone and hung up. Is this a good or bad sign?
Author loverrr Posted November 24, 2005 Author Posted November 24, 2005 because no one is repsonding does that mean its a bad sign LOL:p
Bogun Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 He's either chronically shy or he's not interested.
Author loverrr Posted November 24, 2005 Author Posted November 24, 2005 Hi bojun - thanx 4 ur reply. If ur not interested wouldn't u just tell someone straight out? It was kinda funny one minute we're talking and the converation is all flowing freely and then when i asked for coffee, he sounded so awkward, then he made me feel all uncomfortable:rolleyes:
AlmostMarried77 Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 If ur not interested wouldn't u just tell someone straight out? Unless you're a very plain/straight talker, no you probably wouldn't tell them straight out.
Author loverrr Posted November 24, 2005 Author Posted November 24, 2005 I'm not getting many responses, did i post in the wrong section?
AlmostMarried77 Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 I'm not getting many responses, did i post in the wrong section? Patience is a virtue It can take a little while for people to reply sometimes. And its not as if anyone is being paid to reply
Author loverrr Posted November 24, 2005 Author Posted November 24, 2005 Almostmarried - damn, i thought people would just come right out and say it lol I know I do. Cant understand why he got all nervous and hung up on me. He gets me laughing now, i can still hear how his voice sounded.
Author loverrr Posted November 24, 2005 Author Posted November 24, 2005 Thanks almostmarried - patience? mmmm something i need to learn to have:laugh:
ANUEME Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 It doesn't sound to good loverr!!! Sorry girl..but maybe if you wear something that will make him steam like a cup of hot coffee.. he'll agree to it.smooches Hi Everyone, I am a newbie here so am not sure if this is the best section to post my whinge but will give it a whirl. We've only met a few times and i really like him so when he called me today for work related stuff I said towards the end of the conversation "Are you at work 2morrow?" He said "Yes, until 4pm" And then i said "did you want to come past for coffee after work"? And he went all weird with "Sorry"? In a really "WHAT?" Kind of tone. Then i said iam only around the corner from you "did you want to stop in for a coffee"? He said "on no not tomorrow after noon, i am busy then got things to do, not a good idea" Then i said "How about some other time"? And he didn't respond but got all mumbly and sounded like he was dropping the phone and hung up. Is this a good or bad sign?
Altaira Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 It's' a bad sign, but you sound cute and could do better. He doesn't seem to have good social skills.
mini696 Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I agree with bogun... He was either really shocked, and didn't know how to reply. Or he just wasn't interested.
whichwayisup Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I think you should call again, tell him something like this, "Hey, it seemed me asking you out for coffee the other day kinda freaked you out or something. Didn't mean to make you feel uncomfortable, I was just thinking it might be nice to get together sometime." Then see what he says.
CoolAunt Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 And he didn't respond but got all mumbly and sounded like he was dropping the phone and hung up. Is this a good or bad sign? Definitely a bad sign.
Mary3 Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 Bad sign I like what whichwayisup poster had to say....
Luvinit Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 It sounds like a bad sign. He may just be too shy to actually tell you stright that he is not interested.
jasmine111 Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 i dont think hes worth it anyways if he cant even respond to you like a normal person (even if he isnt interested)
Author loverrr Posted November 26, 2005 Author Posted November 26, 2005 jasmine i think u have a valid point there. i like him but not like like so if he said no it wouldnt bother me but the hanging up really ticked me off lol I would've liked it more if he said, thanks for the invite, but i am not really interested in taking this any further, but thanks anyway But hanging up how anti social and immature? I dont like him now LOL:laugh:
Author loverrr Posted November 29, 2005 Author Posted November 29, 2005 Ok guys here is a small update for you, if anyone here can 'analyse' it that would be great LOL I went into his work to deliver some stuff for his business and had to go round the back to drop the stuff off and ran into each other in the corridor, he was friendly and said "Hi, How are you feeling"? At the same time gently stroking/rubbing my elbow..... If you're not interested in someone and u knew they were kinda interested by asking u for coffee wouldnt u stay clear of them and especially not touch them?? It wasnt sexual but very gentle more sensual
Author loverrr Posted November 29, 2005 Author Posted November 29, 2005 i am eagerly looking forward to your responses.
filarena Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 I'd say that's a good sign. Notice people were mostly saying bad sign but some did say either uninterested or lacks social skills. The elbow rub tells me he's shy and was really taken aback by you being so forward. This is a good sign in that he may in fact be interested. However, if you are completely straightforward and he is really shy, don't be surprised if you finally get him to go on a date and it's not all you'd hoped for.
goingforgold Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 whats with all the "does he like me?" why not just ask him straight out!!
dunno41 Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Maybe he is moving at his own pace and had something special planned to ask you out as a suprise or something?
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