coloradodude Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 I bet you think I'm talking about a guy who's afraid of relationships? Just the opposite. My story is as follows: My high school sweetheart...she was a year older than me in high school, we were eachothers firsts, we had a beautiful relationship. She went off to college, I was left behind. We tried to do the long-distance thing, but she broke up with me over Thanksgiving when she said she'd met another guy. I've never dated anyone seriously since, nor have I slept with anyone else (which she does not know).... Recently, we found ourselves in the cities close to each other, both of us single. We started hanging out alot on weekends, then making out, then finally sleeping together. She would come to my city mostly....then when I went to her city, she told me I couldn't let on to her ex-boyfriend that we were seeing eachother. She felt bad about this, but I pretended to understand. Later, as I asked more about it....I felt sick to my stomach. She had broken up with this guy two years ago. What was the deal, I wondered? She told me that she simply did not want to make waves in her small social circle before she left (she recently left the country for 8 months). So I said ok. We talk on the phone all the time now that she's in another country, and it's like we're practically dating. However, she doesnt want to really be in a relationship with me. She has said I should date other people, which kills me....I would never say that to her. Recently, she told me she's still getting over her ex and isn't ready to commit. 2 years, they were broken up, though! Does that seem weird? And now that she's away from him.... On top on that, I'm not a total stranger....we were high school sweethearts! I'm just really confused and don't know what to do. She doesn't get jealous, she doesn't care if I'm hanging out with other girls.... Does she care about me and want to be with me? Or should I wise up and realize she's still in love with her ex? Can someone please tell me how to proceed? I'm seeing her in a month...we're spending a week together abroad and I dont know how to act around a girl who loves talking everyday, says 'I Love you" to me (albiet reluctantly, at times), sleeps with me, etc. but doesn't want to be in a real relationship with me. She says she doesn't want me to effect her decision of what she does when she gets back to the US. I DO! I want her to be with me! What should I do? Also, as if this isnt complicated enough, I haven't told her she's the only person I've slept with. It's not that I've waited for her, it's just that I only would do that in a serious relationship and I havent found one since. Arrrrgggg.....what to do??
RecordProducer Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 She is definitely not in love with you. That's all I can tell you for sure. What will happen in the future - you never know. If you are good enough to her, she may forget her ex and fall for you.
LN8840K Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 Move on my brother ...get another girlfriend and forget about this chick ..... steal her purse and get your balls back would be the first step
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