I want a second chance.

[LNY]

Some of you may have seen earlier posts of mine, my ex girl broke up with me about 7 months ago, and although our relationship was only about a year long, 7 months later... I still long to have her back. I took the breakup very hard, and my whole life was turned upside down when it happened. I'd never felt so strongly about anyone before.

 

I made a few mistakes when we first broke up (staying in contact etc), but hey, don't we all. It was the first time I'd ever had feelings like this, and I couldn't cope. We have since been NC for about 5 months I'd say now, besides the occasional "hello" when we bump into each other.

 

She started seeing someone pretty early after we broke up, and quite possibly could have been before we broke up. There was a few signs (or mabye I'm paranoid). I think that has ended now, so I believe she is single.

 

I started seeing another girl a few months ago, but had to end it because I couldn't deal with being with another person, while my heart still longed for my ex.

 

I was pretty messed up for the first few months, then started to get over it, but the last month it's been back, I can't think about anything or anyone else besides my ex.

 

One person on here (Art Critic I think?) Told me that if I still felt the same in 6 months time, to contact her. My question is, should I break NC insight of maybe having a second chance after 7 months ? If so... how is the best way to go about it?

 

I really don't know what to do anymore, should I break NC and risk getting shut down again, to be back at square one (although it feels as if I'm back there anyway, after 7 months).

 

I'm just so confused after all this time it feels like it was yesterday again, I hate this, and can't go on like this for much longer. Help!

[cynicalnlove]

Some of you may have seen earlier posts of mine, my ex girl broke up with me about 7 months ago, and although our relationship was only about a year long, 7 months later... I still long to have her back. I took the breakup very hard, and my whole life was turned upside down when it happened. I'd never felt so strongly about anyone before.

one (although it feels as if I'm back there anyway, after 7 months).

 

I'm just so confused after all this time it feels like it was yesterday again, I hate this, and can't go on like this for much longer. Help!

 

What is the content of the break up. Why did she want to break up with you? Did the spark disappear for her? If you wanted to work things out, give it a few weeks to see if you still feel the same way or is it just a moment. If you really, honestly wanted to get back with her - than break the NC, but you also have to accept and be prepared if its a rejection. 7 months is a long time, but its not impossible. I got back together with my ex after almost a year.

[Still_In_Love]

WOW, LNY...I feel like I am reading about my own situation. My ex-gf broke my heart 3 months ago and it devasted me. She is seeing someone and was shortly after the breakup...which of course causes one to speculate if things were happening prior to the break up...

I made similar mistakes and tried to contact her but then when into NC for over 2 1/2 months...I broke it last week and text her a message...but no answer back. So I will accept the reality of life that she is gone for good and I will not try again.

If I were you, and after seven months have gone by...sure take a stab at it, but I agree with cynicalnlove...be prepared for rejection! Goodluck...I truly hope things work out for you!

[LNY]

cynicalnlove, she broke up with me for a few 'reasons'.

 

1) She didn't want a boyfriend or anything to do with guys.

2) She didn't want to go out, she wanted to stay home and;

3) She wanted to focus on her studying.

 

All 3, shes contradicted herself with her actions. Not long after we split, she was seeing someone else. She's been out almsot every weekend clubbing since we've broken up, INCLUDING her exam week. So much for the 'reasons' there.

 

It's been about a month now that I've felt like this again and contemplated breaking NC. How did you manage to get back with your ex? Were you the one that broke it off or did they? How did you break NC?

 

Still_In_Love, I guess you feel my pain hey. Hopefully I won't have to face rejection, but I suppose if I do.. atleast I'll know I did what I could to try and have a second chance and fix things. (Not that I did any of the things that needed fixing!)

[Chill]

Stumbled upon your post, drunk. Best way to deal is to find a girl... or a few. Play the field for awhile. It will all work out bro. Girls are about, great girls at that. Hit the bars, be confident, do what you gotta do.