JS17 Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 Why am I missing my narcissistic a$$wipe of an ex right now? Ok, I guess I'm probably just feeling lonely since I'm not going home for the holiday until tomorrow but still. Why am I feeling like I miss him and want to be with him? I thought I was totally over him. I feel like this is such a setback.
Art_Critic Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 Get busy.. it really isn't a set back.. I've been divorced 4.5 years.. but today was my anniversary date.. So I have thought alot about my ex wife.. And because it is a holiday I have thought about my last ex GF.. Go figure.. You'll be all right
johan Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 I'm wondering that about myself. For 2 months, I was fine. Now I keep thinking good things about her. And I miss her. If I REALLY think about what it would be like to get back with her, then I remember why we split. But that doesn't help very much.
Author JS17 Posted November 24, 2005 Author Posted November 24, 2005 I'm wondering that about myself. For 2 months, I was fine. Now I keep thinking good things about her. And I miss her. If I REALLY think about what it would be like to get back with her, then I remember why we split. But that doesn't help very much. That's exactly how I feel!
JohnJohn Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 You'll be fine. It's normal to have a relapse here and there. As long as you are trending towards recovery then it's no big deal. Just don't stay in that obsessive phase too long. That's the hardest one to escape from.
cynicalnlove Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 You'll be fine. It's normal to have a relapse here and there. As long as you are trending towards recovery then it's no big deal. Just don't stay in that obsessive phase too long. That's the hardest one to escape from. I think its the darn holiday.
JohnJohn Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 The holiday? Yeah but it's Thanksgiving - meaning you should give thanks for what you have and not dwell on what you do not have, i.e. a relationship.
Outcast Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 For all of you living in splitland, you need The List. It's a vital tool in getting over someone. Sit down right now and write a list of all the negative traits and bad times you had with that person. Every unpleasant thing he or she did or said needs to be on paper. Then keep that list with you and when your brain wants to drift back to only the pleasant times, read the list and remind yourself that there were very good reasons why you are no longer together. People are wired to forget pain which is why you dredge up the pleasant memories. So you need a tool to prevent the pain you endured from being lost in the fog of memory and keep you from doing something foolish.
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