manders_01 Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 I am very much a rush, rush, rush kinda gal but am beginning a new relationship and feel like if I don't want to screw things up, I need to go slow. Any advice on how to slow things down?
Horaki Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Maybe just go with the flow ? Let the guy make all the calls and see where it goes because if you rush into thing or start talking about kids and marriage and you just got together you could scare the guy off. So just take it easy and in strides enjoy what you have for the moment and don't push for anything your not sure the person wouldnt want .
westernxer Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Just go with the flow. If you feel like you're forcing things, take a breather and step back for a bit.
Author manders_01 Posted November 23, 2005 Author Posted November 23, 2005 start talking about kids and marriage Okay - I guess I'm not that much of a rush, rush, rush kinda gal. My "problem" is more that I don't like to be dating someone, I like being in a relationship with someone. I want instant coupledom. And although "going with the flow" is excellent advice, not only is it a little vague (was looking for something more specific, possibly from someone with experience) but it's also easier said then done (as I'm sure most of the adivce will be - old habits die hard).
westernxer Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 And although "going with the flow" is excellent advice, not only is it a little vague... Your situation is a little vague.
Author manders_01 Posted November 23, 2005 Author Posted November 23, 2005 Your situation is a little vague. True. Specifics: We met two weeks ago at a sports bar. We were both there watching our favorite football team and conversation ensued. Hit it off big time. Didn't force any phone number exchange. My best friend was with me and told me that he was "giving signs" that indicated that he was interested. He asked to meet back again this past weekend. More conversation ensued. He asked for my number this time. He asked me to go for a drink prior to the Thanksgiving break but he's traveling for the holiday and told me it might have to wait till he got back - which is looking like what might happen. Everything is very new and young. I'm just trying to make sure that I don't mess it up before it's even an it.
westernxer Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 I don't see how you can mess it up if you haven't seen him yet. Guess you'll have to wait for his phone call.
Author manders_01 Posted November 23, 2005 Author Posted November 23, 2005 I don't see how you can mess it up if you haven't seen him yet. Haven't messed up (yet), just trying to aviod doing so. I know a lot of it has to do with how fast he goes in relationships, I'm possibly worrying about nothing. But I'm just trying "get a jump" on the situation.
lilmoma1973 Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Just take it slow and let the chips fall where they may and all the rest will come ... Be patient and wait!!!
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Specifics....keep yourself really busy with other things in your life...school, work, hobbies....so that you find that you need time for yourself. That will help you to slow your pace down to his.
Author manders_01 Posted November 23, 2005 Author Posted November 23, 2005 Specifics....keep yourself really busy with other things in your life...school, work, hobbies....so that you find that you need time for yourself. That will help you to slow your pace down to his. Thank you! Exactly what I was looking for. Now - have you done this and did it work for you?
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