Hubby finally agrees with me and followed through!!!

[lilmoma1973]

 

Me and my h was discussing my ss and how i said he can do something and never get punished for it and h says that isn't so well ss got caught on the porn and for the fourth time and yet to be punished he had his cell phone taken for a total of one hr if that and he still talking on the phone and shouldn't be and still doing things with his g/f and shouldn't be well i brought it to my h's attention and told him that he wasn't fair in disciplining and our 6 yr was noticing it and was saying that we hate her and love our ss more.. I told my h if he would start disciplining ss alittle more he she might not say these things...

 

Well my h never sticks to what he says and does but last night ss ask to go to some party friday and h said you are still in trouble for looking at the porn and you are still owed some punishment for you going behind my back and doing this.. SS acted all made and said he didn't understand.. That was one time this week then this morning ss got up and thought he didn't have to do any chores around the house and i said something about the catlitter and he said noone told him... That is a lie and i knew it and told him that he had been told since Sunday and he denied it i said that he was lazy and needed to start doing things around the house more often and he was already told .. He got mouthy and asked me what my problem was so i went and got on my cellphone and called his dad to see what he had to say and for once he agreed with me and said that yes he did know what needed to be done and been told since Sunday he wasn't to go nowhere till it was finished!!!! He told ss that he was 15 and he didn't need to be told what to do he should already know..

 

SS is pissed at me and i don't care he is lazy and thinks all he has to do is go to sports and thats it!!!! H backed me up for once and i can't believe it and told ss he should do what is asked of him!!! SS started crying like he did with the porn and thought h was going to bash me and it was the total opposite ..His grandmother came to get him so he could use the computer to do his project which i don't trust because she will let him do whatever and won't stand by him !!! SS isn't able to get on the computer at our house he isn't on our account and mil has him on hers and he can't get on under guest it is blocked ... If ss gets on it is under my h name and that is where i h caught him looking in his drop down and seen where there was football and wrestling and in the middle of that was things he looked up like sex,nude chicks, and fanasty finder .. I knew this wasn't h because if he was going to look up any porn would be alot more graphic.. I knew it was ss and he confessed .. I just hope h stands by with me on this disciplining and follows through and is consistant and it would make this household and relationship run more smoothly.. We have been butting heads with this situation with daughter and ss and he says it is different he is 15 she is 6 and i would get mad!!

 

He talked on the phone while mil was there to pick him up and told her what happened so ss couldn't say a differnent story and told mil that ss needed to mind me that i have been there for him since he was 2 not his mother and i deserved the respect from everyone involved !! Now will he folow through with the inlaws and how they disrespect me and i made a post about his dad we will see hope so !!! What do u think will happen now will he keep backing me up now or will it be a phase and do it from now on!!! I told h the day that it was a give and take in a relationship and not a take and take maybe this sparked something i don't know!!!!

[JadeStar]

Glad he agreed and backed you up on some things. Hopefully he will continue to be consistant in what he says.

 

 

 

Jade

[lilmoma1973]

Glad he agreed and backed you up on some things. Hopefully he will continue to be consistant in what he says.

 

 

 

Jade

 

Yeah that my thoughts too !! I hope he continues to do so also because in the past he hasn't been consistant and follow through with things.. I guess i know that people can change but hard to believe he will!!! THANKS;)