a4a Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 1. Curious to know how many of you with partners have told them you post on this forum? 2. If so have they read your or others posts? 3. Have they participated by giving their opinion on posts? ******************************************* 1. Mine does. 2. Once or twice. 3. He has laughed at one or two crazy ones but does not participate otherwise. a4a
littlekitty Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 1. Curious to know how many of you with partners have told them you post on this forum? He knows I post to an advice/support type forum, I don't think I mentioned the name. Although I'd happily tell him! 2. If so have they read your or others posts? Nope. 3. Have they participated by giving their opinion on posts? Nope. I generally only use LS at work... so not with him then.
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 1. Curious to know how many of you with partners have told them you post on this forum? 2. If so have they read your or others posts? 3. Have they participated by giving their opinion on posts? 1. Mr. B knows . 2. Yes, I actually point out certain ones sometimes or send him links. 3. Yes, once or twice - we'll talk about certain posts or he will post since he is a member here.
whichwayisup Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 1. Curious to know how many of you with partners have told them you post on this forum? He knows I am on here, but probably forgotten the name of the site. I haven't told him who I am and he hasn't asked. 2. If so have they read your or others posts? I've told him about certain posts and we've shared alot of laughs, that's about it. 3. Have they participated by giving their opinion on posts? See above answer.
lilmoma1973 Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Yes my h knows and he feels threatened and doesn't like that i go and discuss or problems with complete strangers!! I told him it gives me an outlet when i can't communicate with him about things going on in our marriage and helps me get advice and opinions on what to do!! I guess he just don't want people to know how he really is and the way he does things in a marriage and don't want to be judged!!:
tinktronik Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Yes , my s/o knows an we read posts together sometimes.He does give opinions , and we both enjoy responding.
Author a4a Posted November 23, 2005 Author Posted November 23, 2005 Yes my h knows and he feels threatened and doesn't like that i go and discuss or problems with complete strangers!! I told him it gives me an outlet when i can't communicate with him about things going on in our marriage and helps me get advice and opinions on what to do!! I guess he just don't want people to know how he really is and the way he does things in a marriage and don't want to be judged!!: Well tell him it is cheaper for him than paying for a therapist! He should be thankful you care enough to talk about him and try to understand how to fix things in your marriage. You could be posting to a sex site ( oooops I forgot about all the sex threads on here) and looking for a new man. a4a
TUDOR Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 No my s/o doesn't know. I don't think she whould mind but I mostly only get on LS at work and the occassionaly sleepless night so it never really comes up.
Tangerina Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 My BF doesn't know... since everything I type is anonymous I don't think it is a problem but I like to have a place to rant/vent/ramble/get advice about private things or, say, about my ex and not have to worry about protecting his feeling... sometimes you think things that you need to work through (insecurities, etc) but it wouldn't really help the relationship to share them... I don't want him to read some of the stuff on here, especially about problems or insecurities I have had with him or things about my ex, though in general I talk about most of this stuff with him anyways... I like having this just for me... HAHA, I was actually thinking about starting this topic, because I was thinking about how I didn't want him to read some of this stuff and was curious if anyone else was in that position... Last year I was listening to a radio talk show and I guy called in to ask if any other listeners had advice about breath control (choking or suffocating a partner during sex, some people like it, it can be fun but is a high level kink and takes lots of trust and practice to do it safely) because his GF wanted to try it and he wasn't sure about it... and she heard him on the radio (what did he think would happen, everyone listens to that station!) and she called in and was REALLY REALLY mad that he was discussing their problems with strangers and was yelling at him that he was boring in bed... it could have all been staged for the radio show, of course, but anyways, this post reminded me of that story.....
JayKay Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 I showed it to my BF a few times. I think in the beginning he was upset because he thought 'posting' meant that I was 'talking about my problems with strangers' I explained that that wasn't the case. Rarely I've posted about an issue here and there....I mostly just read people's stories and give advice. I have always been interested in other people's life experiences and if I feel like I have something worth saying, i'll ad a post or two. I think LS is an interesting community and it gives me a place to visit on a slow day at work.....LOL
NYCmitch25 Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 1. Curious to know how many of you with partners have told them you post on this forum? 2. If so have they read your or others posts? 3. Have they participated by giving their opinion on posts? ******************************************* a4a 1. Mine does. And I sometimes talk about some of the threads a little bit. Basically because I have to tell someone, and it's a part of my life. 2. Not really, has little interest. 3. Not at all, but she has agreed with my opinions and complemented me on some of them.
Woggle Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 She knows and she doesn't mind. I am trying to get her to join because she has some interesting points of view as well.
whichwayisup Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I showed it to my BF a few times. I think in the beginning he was upset because he thought 'posting' meant that I was 'talking about my problems with strangers' My hubby actually had the opposite reaction. He thinks it's good that I can vent away on here, complain, ask questions, get answers and advice from people who don't know me...Objective advice is great - It's more clear and easier to take in than hearing it from someone you know.
ziggue Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 1. Yes I have told my so and he knows I come on here. I got him to join but he doesn't normally reply to anything. Just reads them and has thought some his read are little bit out there. . 2. Yes he's read some of my posts and we've talked about a couple of things I've written about. 3. No he doesn't post regularly but has done it once I think. Around the time he first joined up.
cplfun13 Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 Yes he knows all about the forum. I have read him a few posts here and there and we share opinions and thoughts. He has given me a comment or two to add with my reply.
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted November 26, 2005 Posted November 26, 2005 Yep, my man knows. He says he checks it on average every three days to see what the hot topics are. We oftentimes read posts together too. He sometimes jokes that he needs to join but not tell me and start giving me advice anonymously. He said since my name is "oh what am I doing," he could call himself, "I'm what she's doing!" If you're reading this, hi sweetie!
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