westernxer Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 It's obvious he's messed up. His mistake was switching schools. You should get on his ass and tell him he fuucked up. Then just be a bitch and ignore his bullshiit as best you can. I'm trying to use as much profanity as possible, so just bear with me.
Author teethbrushes Posted November 24, 2005 Author Posted November 24, 2005 if he hadn't come to my school i think things would have been okay. i would be a liar if i said i didn't have feelings for him SOMETIMES. And I'm sure...well pretty positive, he has feelings for me most of the time. So its a stupid lose-lose situation.
westernxer Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 Did you ever ask him why he decided to do this?
Author teethbrushes Posted November 24, 2005 Author Posted November 24, 2005 i don't think he thought of the consequences. He had applied there when we were still dating, and a bunch of other schools. He told me he thought since I had moved on we wouldn't have much to do with each other. That's the dumbest thing ever....he joined activities I'm established in and we have a lot of common interests so we have a class together. DUH. I think he might not have gotten in to the other schools, but I know he had alternatives to coming here.
Author teethbrushes Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 when i get PM priviledges, I'd like to PM you about this. But how can we stay away from each other? It doesn't seem possible without one of us sacrificing a whole lot, which I am unwilling to do. I don't plan on staying in touch with him over breaks or when I graduate, unless something really out of the ordinary happens. In fact I look forward to graduating so I can disappear. But its a full year away!
westernxer Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 You might need to hide, or just hire a body double to distract him.
Author teethbrushes Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 that would be good since he does seem rather distracted by me in general. A little too interested in someone you dumped and was "over" in a month.
westernxer Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 Have that body double lead him to a shrink's office.
Author teethbrushes Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 not a bad idea. i posted on another message board and they seemed to think I was the one with the problem and told me it was a huge issue for me to have my feelings come back after being over him. I was told I overanalyze and to avoid him at all costs...I for one, think this is all silly. If you were seriously involved with someone at ANY point in your life and see them again, you're going to be somewhat interested. Its life. Unless they killed your mother or something.
westernxer Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I've seen exes after breaking up, but not in the same class. It is awkward, no doubt, but it's much worse if you work with them. I never had to worry about this, but I've seen plenty of co-workers suffer because of it. Constant contact can stunt personal progress. In your case, you need to be more evasive when he comes around.
Author teethbrushes Posted November 25, 2005 Author Posted November 25, 2005 being evasive is difficult without sacrificing personal things I find enjoyable. I see sacrficing that as him having control over what I do.
westernxer Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 You can be evasive without sacrificing anything.
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