La Chica Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 So the guy I have been dating (2 months) just told me that he has never masturbated before. He is 38. I have NEVER had a guy tell me this before. Not that I think that something is wrong with it, but like I said, it's new to me. He said that he never thought of it, and then when he became "sexually interested" he always thought that it would make sex even better if he refrained from masturbating until he had actual intercourse. I was just taken aback. But I will say that when he does have an orgasm during sex it is quite dramatic (which I actually like) so there may be some truth to it. But I mean NEVER have masturbated? Maybe I am just naive...
Raz Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Maybe he did once......but he forgot about it......?
933KJL Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Man, that is awfully hard for me to believe. Not saying it is not true, but tough to believe. The old joke that 98% of the men admit to masterbating and the other 2% are liars. But, if he never jjerked off then I guess it makes sense that his orgasms might be a bit more ...shall we say ...active. I mean no practice muffling the sounds at night so mom does not hear. Do you? Perhaps he was just saying this because he felt it was somethign you wanted to hear? Two months is not a long time. Hmmm
Rickymoemoe Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 A non-masterbator here! I must admit we are probably the rarest breed of men on the planet. But it is true their are those few of us out there. And yes it makes that region for a man much more sensitive due to the fact he ain't beatin it all the time. PS and no I'm not your BF :-)
Yamaha Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 So why refrain? It is a great stress reliever and generally improves your mood. Seems like a win, win situation all around, to me. Does he tell you why he doesn't want to masturbate?
Forever Searching Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 This is interesting, I was going to post a topic similar. The new guy I'm dating said he never masterbates. I found that kind of surprising because I'm one of those girls that actually likes porn and I masterbate all the time so it's kind of like a joke to us now. I just wasn't sure to believe him or not and kind of wondered why he didn't. But, our sex life is absolutely amazing so I also wondered if that had something to do with the fact that he doesn't masterbate? hmmm...
Panhandler Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 I suppose if you never learn how to masterbate when you are young that you can grow up and not really be taken in with it, if you have reproach to the subject. A lot more girls don't masterbate than men, and a lot of girls don't even get off on sex or masterbation cause they don't know how to do it right. On a side note only about 30% of retarded people ever figure out how to masterbate. hehehe I think I read that somewhere, and it was interesting. But for me, I think it's rather healthy, because you are getting blood flow to that area. You know the saying use it or lose it, and that is pretty much the truth thru research. Now if you have a stable partner and have sex all the time then there's not as much need to masterbate. Of course starving yourself for sex can make those sensations a little more intense, because you get burnt out with it after awhile. But there's a lot more to having a healthy sexual drive, than just that. It's actually a good sign that a guy has a healthy sex drive if he masterbates several times a day. Because that means that he's not getting burnt out with it quickly. For me it hurts to be teased and not release all that gunk out of me, it hurts bad. I don't know how any man can handle having all that sticky stuff gunked up in his balls. I really think it's a weird practice not too, and I think that guys that don't do it, aren't able to fantasize and aren't comfortable touching themselves for some reason.
whichwayisup Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 I wonder if... The Pope and the Queen masterbate. (Not together obviously, LOL!) Yuk, I just got an awful image of Prince Charles having a private splooge off fest in his bedroom!
Horaki Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 I do not want too call him a liar but i think everyone masterbates... If I have a girlfriend I don't because what's the point ? honestly.... But when i'm single you bet i am!
Author La Chica Posted November 23, 2005 Author Posted November 23, 2005 Well as long as there is one non-masturbater out there I guess I feel okay...I did some reasearch after I posted and it looks like 5% of men don't. I guess I am dating one of the 5 percent? Anywho I/we are very open with each other so I do not think that he would claim not to choke the chicken just to "impress" me. I mean I told him that I did and was pretty surprised when he told me that he did not. I mean we have sex regularly now so I understand why he would currently not partake, but NEVER EVER? I was just surprised by that...Oh, and yeah he his reasons for not doing it is that he "never thought of it..." He said he would get erections and what not but never thought of alleviating the pressure himself. He really does not seem like he has a lot of hang-ups about his body and is comfortable with me in bed, so I do not think that the idea of touching himself would freak him out. But I dunno, our sex life is muy bueno and I do like his "celebratory" orgasms, so as long as there is one other person out there who does not do the big M, I can believe it...
reddog63 Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 I have a hard time believing this..................oooppps, gotta go masturbate
centered Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 If I have a girlfriend I don't because what's the point ? honestly.... But when i'm single you bet i am! Horaki may have given us a different explanation: Maybe the man who has never masturbated has never been without female companionship? His prowess in bed might be from having LOTS of practice. It might be a good idea to have this guy agree to get tested for STDs. (This should be a mutual thing, anyway.) Just a thought. FWIW, I wouldn't believe a virile straight man if he told me he'd never masturbated AND he went for long periods of time being without female companionship. It sounds unnatural. Maybe he's a different species?
Author La Chica Posted November 23, 2005 Author Posted November 23, 2005 Um, I am quite sure that the reason that he doesn' masturbate is that he's always got a woman in his bed. We've talked about our sexual histories and I don't think that is the case...But I know, still pretty hard to believe. My new plan is to get him drunk and ask him again. In wine there is truth...
Author La Chica Posted November 23, 2005 Author Posted November 23, 2005 I meant, he hasn't always had a girl and therefore that is not why he doesn't masturbate...Sorry, still waking up...
centered Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Um, I am quite sure that the reason that he doesn' masturbate is that he's always got a woman in his bed. When I first read that, I did a double take! Then I saw your correction right afterwards. It sounds like you may have found a very special guy who will really cherish the intimacy with you. Congrats! In vino veritas? Perhaps -- but you'll see it in his eyes even without the wine Good luck and I hope it works out well for both of you!
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