David18 Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 ok, ive been dateing this girl for about 5-6 months... i work at a fast food place which is open 24 hours. and i work from 10PM at night till 6AM in the mornings. and she works during the day.. from either 1PM to 10PM at night... She has a 15 month old kid. and she lives at home.. in the 5 months we been together we went out on a date to a movie twice. and both times her sister with us. we never went out by ourselves. and sometimes we go weeks and weeks without seeing each other. cause i can't go over her house cause her mom thinks im too young for her.. and her mom has never met me. im 18 and shes 21. she says she wants to be with me and do things but she doesnt have anyone to watch her kid... but then on the other hand she sometimes go out with friends and her mom will watch her kid but when i want to do something she says her mom won't watch the kid... we've slept together... but.. i thought being in a relationship you see each other often and not once every acouple of weeks... we love each other... but she seems like she doesn't want to see each other. i asked her why she says shes not use to the dateing thing and not really sure how it works.. im just really really confussed... and she will only call me when her mom isn't home or when shes headed to work when shes by herself.. if anyone is around her she won't call or talk to me... she says her mom trys to take the phone or listen in on the phone to whos she talking about... but we been together 5 months and i don't see her.. and everytime i say something about not spending time together she gets all mad and tells me to find another girl i can spend time with then... does anyone know her problem or what i can do to solve this? it really hurts at time. cause friends and family are like where is your girlfriend she never spends any time with you or is never around...
kitkat826 Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 It sounds like she's not that interested in having a relationship with you. The excuses she is giving are typical of those who are stringing someone on. Also, if I was 21 and had a toddler I don't know what type of serious anything I would be looking for from an 18 yr old. Perhaps being a young mother she likes getting involved with younger guys just for the fact that she it expects it to be fun, simple, and no strings attached. She probably also feels torn about where she should be spending her time; working, with her kid, her friends, etc., and doesn't want to feel guilty about not spending time with you. Have you ever had an "exclusivity talk"? I think you should stop thinking of this as an actual relationship because its obvious she doesn't see it as one. (p.s. Im sorry about it all. Those types of situations are no fun).
westernxer Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Why would you settle for something like this?
Author David18 Posted November 23, 2005 Author Posted November 23, 2005 She wants a relationship she tells me... she even asked me to marry her... lol we got engaged.. and everything but then we would fight and call it off or whatever.. but she wants to have a relationship but she blames work and living at home with no way to go for not being able to see me
westernxer Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Dude, you're 18 going on 30... stay away from her.
Forever Searching Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 I think you should just move on and find someone that will actually make you happy. It doesn't sound like you are ever going to be a priority in her life and it sounds to me like she's with you out of convenience maybe just so she feels like she "has" someone. In my opinion, if she really liked you she would stand up for you and not care so much what her mother thinks or at least try to defend your relationship to her.
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