mazoe Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 I need some serious advice. I think i ma in love with my best boy friend. we spend alot of time together and lately i have been developing these feelings towards him. we are always holding hands when we are together in a very intimate way(could be just one sided intimacy though). we have known each other for close to 20 years. there was a time when we talked about hooking up but we decided that it wasnt a good idea coz we didint want to mess up our friendship but lately things are a bit confusing for me. we havent kissed except for a peck here and there but nothing hectic. i want to tell him how i feel but i also dont want him to stop hanging out with me in case things become akward. he represents everything i want in a man and we really get along. i am trying hard to stop these feelings and try and vent my interest somewhere else but i know i will just end up hurting someone else. what do you think?????anyone!!!!
witabix Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 Hi mazoe. I reckon you need to sort out where you stand with this guy. If you are good friends then I see no reason why you can't talk to him about how you feel. If he freaks and doesn't want to be your friend afterwards don't blame him, many guys would be uncomfortable being friends with a girl who is very interested in them if they don't feel the same way, not to mention what his current/future girlfriend may think. If you 'vent your interest elsewhere' as you put it you will be opening a can of worms for some other poor sucker who you will be using as a substitute. Do not do this under any circumstance. No one wants a girl who thinks some other guy is perfect for her. "He represents all I want in a man" if this is true why on God's earth don't you tell him? My advice then is tell him how you feel, if it goes wrong, thats life. Under no circumstance involve another guy in this situation, I would absolutely hate to get caught like that.
Topshotter Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 You should tell him, Let him know! I don't think he will freak out and not hang around you anymore after 20 years of friendship, NO man is like that... but before you say anything to him, Does he have a girlfriend? if yes then my advice would be forget it! But let me know anyway.
Yamaha Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 I think men are much more open to this situation, dating a friend, than women. Men usually do not have a friends zone only. I would let him see that you have feelings besides friendship for him and see how he responds(Give him lots or signals that you like him).
Horaki Posted November 23, 2005 Posted November 23, 2005 Well naturally you guys hold hands and kiss sometimes thats going to give anyone those kinds of feelings espcially if you have been doing it for awhile. My suggestion is don't hold is hand and if he asks why say thats something people together do, tell him that you don't want to hold hands or kiss or anything like that unless theres something more too it then just friends, because lets say you guys hold hands all the time and sometimes kiss, then he gets a girlfriend and he stops it. It's going to make you feel alot worse down the road so why let something go on the could end up hurting you ? Atleast if you put it too him that way its either we're friends or we're a couple there's no inbetween because all thats going to do is screw you up emotionally.
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