buzzie2 Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 Okay so this guy that I thought was really nice and sensitive turned out to be a perverted, crude, and tactless jerk. I found out he was just putting on an act around me. He originally told me he was a born again christian, he hated porn, and didnt do any illegal drugs. See, I am a christian and saving myself for marriage. But behind my back I hear he calls me a prude, and from other people I found out that him and his married friends do wild things like strip poker, strip naked at parties,freqeunt the porn shops, and go out every weekend and drink about 12 beers each. I am really mad for falling for him, but it's because I fell for the guy I thought he was. I went to his birthday party and all his friends were giving him cards with woman spreading there legs wide open and you could see their c---ts. I also found out he is a drug user and I am totally against that. I feel like a fool for falling for him. Should I confront him or just let it go? I always wanted to end up with a gentlemen and he is definatley NOT. My feelings are very hurt. Should I just cut my losses with this guy?
MissLonelyHeart Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 Holy COW. YES!!! Cut your losses!!! TO THE CURB!!!! You poor dear. I'm sorry he turned out to be such a jerk. Wash your hands of him now before he ends up really offending you and hurting you! -MLH
AmberAriesMom Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 You poor thing! Consider yourself complimented that he wanted to date you so much that he'd make up a false persona to impress you....and when you've done that for one second, then do this: Do not ever go out with him again, and when he contacts you the next time for a date or to talk or whatever, just tell him you are not interested in seeing him anymore, but thanks for the good times. Don't give this man reasons. If he's already telling people behind your back that you're a prude (which you are not) then explaining why you don't like him will only give him more fuel for his 'prude' argument. You might could tell him he lied to you, which is a red flag to just dump him...but he'll either deny it or try to say he won't do it anymore or tell you so what, so I wouldn't even tell him that. No matter what reason you give him he may translate that into 'she just doesn't get me because she's so *fill in the blank*'. So don't set yourself up for hearing him translate what you say to him to make himself feel good. You can however, tell anyone else you want to why you dumped him, , and I would do that so you can get to people first before he starts explaining things his way. A liar = dump him.....a lie of this magnitude is a sure sign to leave him alone. Little white harmless lies are not always so bad, but he lied about his character which was a very important thing to you. Good luck!
slubberdegullion Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 Whoa, slow down a minute here everybody. buzzie2, your post references things that you "heard about." Do you know any of this directly? Have you actually seen him do this stuff? Just hearing about something is not evidence. So get your facts straight first. If it's true, then boot his sorry a$$ to the curb immediately.
AmberAriesMom Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 Whoa, slow down a minute here everybody. buzzie2, your post references things that you "heard about." Do you know any of this directly? Have you actually seen him do this stuff? Just hearing about something is not evidence. So get your facts straight first. If it's true, then boot his sorry a$$ to the curb immediately. I agree with having proof, but sometimes these sorts don't let you catch them with the proof. I'd say if more than a couple people who know him better than you do say these things about him, then that's all the proof you need.
Craig Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 You need some real proof before you do anything.
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