HisGirlFriday Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 It's been 3 weeks since we broke up. The first week was really har because I would call and he wouldn't answer or he'd get angry because I'd be calling so much, even though I just wanted to talk. So from some advice from a friend and him, I backed off for a week and he eventually called me. We talked for a few minutes and he said he'd call me later. A couple days later I called him and he was out with his friends (That's all he's been doing lately) and said he'd call me the next day. He didn't call and when I asked him why he said simply, "Tired". I got really upset a few nights later and called him about it, all weepy of course and he said he was busy that night and that he'd call me the next night. He also told me he met another girl and wanted to see more of her. 2 weeks after we broke up! So obviously I'm crushed and he was supposed to call again tonight, and didn't, even when he promised for the third time. He's been kind on the phone, but I want to know what he's really thinking and what I should do. It's hard to give up on something that meant so much, especially when I've never clicked with someone like I have with him. He just got out of the Marine Corps and could be adjusting to not having as much authority so I sometimes wonder if he's taking that out on me. Should I give him more time and space, give it up, or what should I do, I need a guys perspective or someone who's been through this.
cynicalnlove Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 It's been 3 weeks since we broke up. The first week was really har because I would call and he wouldn't answer or he'd get angry because I'd be calling so much, even though I just wanted to talk. So from some advice from a friend and him, I backed off for a week and he eventually called me. We talked for a few minutes and he said he'd call me later. A couple days later I called him and he was out with his friends (That's all he's been doing lately) and said he'd call me the next day. He didn't call and when I asked him why he said simply, "Tired". I got really upset a few nights later and called him about it, all weepy of course and he said he was busy that night and that he'd call me the next night. He also told me he met another girl and wanted to see more of her. 2 weeks after we broke up! So obviously I'm crushed and he was supposed to call again tonight, and didn't, even when he promised for the third time. He's been kind on the phone, but I want to know what he's really thinking and what I should do. It's hard to give up on something that meant so much, especially when I've never clicked with someone like I have with him. He just got out of the Marine Corps and could be adjusting to not having as much authority so I sometimes wonder if he's taking that out on me. Should I give him more time and space, give it up, or what should I do, I need a guys perspective or someone who's been through this. I think he just told you. He keeps on avoiding your calls and lets you down easily and hope that you will figure it out. he's seeing someone he really likes, he even told you he wanted to see more of her. I know that it sucks being in the state that you are in, but there's nothing you could really do. If he loves you, he will come back to you. If he doesn't than he was just using you to pass time. Just go on with your life, and forget about him.
Mz. Pixie Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 He doesn't want to be with you. Quit calling him, he's only being nice. If he calls you, cool but until then stay at NC.
Enema Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 Nothing helps cement a breakup more than the ex chain-calling you for the next few weeks crying. Every call reminds him why he broke up with you in the first place.
cynicalnlove Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 Nothing helps cement a breakup more than the ex chain-calling you for the next few weeks crying. Every call reminds him why he broke up with you in the first place. Yeah see, it'll just show you that you're pathetic over him.. and that will just push anyone away. I know you will probably find some excuse to go weeping back to him, but from the outside - really, look at how bad it makes you look. i agree with everyone above, keep the NC
HisGirlFriday Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 Thanks. Yeah it's been tough cause I've never felt this way before. I'm usually the person who will give any guy a shot, but never really clicks with any of them. It's really rough and I just need closure. Contrary to popular belief, the words "**** you" suck as closure. I just want him to calm down and talk to me, but believe me I do know how ridiculous I look calling him. The worst are drunk dials. He called me today and I tried to be nice, but I can't handle him just yelling about nothing. I'm not going to be walked all over by a guy who broke my heart. I've been on a couple dates, but the guy just isn't my style. I don't know what to do because I can't get the words he said to me out of my head. I'm doing everything wrong in trying to get over him, but I guess that's because I had that notion that we could talk things out, but that's kind of hard when he refuses to talk at all. I can't handle not being able to communicate because things get so misconstrued. This probably has to be one of the hardest things I've done.
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