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Do you get mad if someone says something about your driving?

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My husband totally freaked out because I said he was going to fast. This turned into a verbal attack that lasted for 20 minutes.

 

For more info: We had just left Sam's Club with a new refrigerator in the back. We were just about going 78 when I said something.

 

I felt the punishment didn't fit the crime. I think he over reacted. If someone says they think I'm going to fast, I either listen and slow down or I just laugh and continue same speed. I don't blow my top.

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Blowing his top was too much.

 

I don't like it when my fiance gives me driving tips because she is such a horrible driver and i know what I'm doing.

 

He probably feels the same way, thinks he's a better driver than you and therefore, your opinion on his driving is not valid and "possibly" your way of saying you could do better. (in his mind)

 

It's a bit of a reach but yeah, that situation sounded a bit weird.

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People can be ignoramuses behind the wheel. I refuse to drive with anyone who behaves that way. So should you.

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I do get some comments about the speed of my driving sometimes. Had a classic one with the wife once

 

Her: Baby!! We're doing 110!!

Me: Hmmm... actually its 115

 

That was on a motorway before people start shouting

 

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My husband totally freaked out because I said he was going to fast. This turned into a verbal attack that lasted for 20 minutes.I felt the punishment didn't fit the crime. I think he over reacted.

 

He totally over-reacted. Does he have a habit of subjecting you to lengthy tantrums? If so, are the two of you using any particular strategies that might enable him to address such unreasonable and irritating behaviour?

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He totally over-reacted. Does he have a habit of subjecting you to lengthy tantrums? If so, are the two of you using any particular strategies that might enable him to address such unreasonable and irritating behaviour?

Reminds me of my ex. She'd go ballistic if anyone - me or anybody else - mentioned her driving. I had to endure three days of s*** from her because I flinched when she ran a red light. I didn't say a word but I was preparing for an impact.

 

But if I'm driving and someone's uncomfortable as a passenger, I'm OK with them saying that I'm going too fast or following too close or whatever. When I'm in charge of the vehicle, it's my responsibility to ensure that the passengers get to their destination safely and comfortabley.

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I guess he had been holding back for a while. Then at that moment he let me have it. Since then, I have been told that I have made his life miserable for 23 years by complaining about his driving. (and other things) WOW! On the other hand, I am not surprized by this because we have been just going through the motions for about 4 years now.

 

Funny, when I was younger, I always wondered about marriages that ended after 20 years. I guess I'm soon to find out. 5 years ago, I would have said that he was my everything, today I am scared of him and don't know where to turn. This is a very bad day. (Sorry)

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My husband totally freaked out because I said he was going to fast. This turned into a verbal attack that lasted for 20 minutes.

 

For more info: We had just left Sam's Club with a new refrigerator in the back. We were just about going 78 when I said something.

 

I felt the punishment didn't fit the crime. I think he over reacted. If someone says they think I'm going to fast, I either listen and slow down or I just laugh and continue same speed. I don't blow my top.

 

He's over compensating because he feels subconsciously that you probably never listen to him about this issue (or other issues). It's partly true because you are a repeat offender And you admit that you purposely tune him out. Do you want to change this or just blame him? Of course it's hard to say this as fact because I know so little about you guys (ie. he could just be a prick)

 

 

 

ps. Did you say you just left a Sam's Club ?

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I guess he had been holding back for a while. Then at that moment he let me have it. Since then, I have been told that I have made his life miserable for 23 years by complaining about his driving. (and other things) WOW! On the other hand, I am not surprized by this because we have been just going through the motions for about 4 years now.

 

Funny, when I was younger, I always wondered about marriages that ended after 20 years. I guess I'm soon to find out. 5 years ago, I would have said that he was my everything, today I am scared of him and don't know where to turn. This is a very bad day. (Sorry)

 

:( I've read a couple of your posts where you've indicated that you're rethinking your marriage, but finding it all a bit scary. Are you talking this through with anyone just now? Do you think your husband has an inkling about the way you're feeling - and how do you think he'd feel if he found out you're feeling scared of him?

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I dont take offence if the critisism is justified. My ex didn't like my braking style, and I agree that it can be freaky to the passenger, because they dont feel in control.

 

Getting into a fight over it is way over the top.

 

I have stopped on the side of the highway and dumped a passenger before cos he wouldn't shut up about my driving. "If you dont like it get the hell out of my car"

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To Lindya-who would I talk to...I have a hard time listening to advice from people I personally know who will just take my side. That's why I have come here, somehow it's easier hearing it from strangers. I have thought about talking with my best friend but I hate the words coming out of my mouth so I just don't say how I'm really feeling. Maybe I think I can fix this, somehow by myself.

 

My husband does know how I'm feeling about the marriage. I haven't let him know that I have been scared of him though. When we argue he gets very loud and says hurtful things. Nothing ever physical, it's just that look in his eyes sometimes that makes me keep my mouth shut.

 

To Mitch- Yes, a Sam's Club (wholesale warehouse). Not the kind of club you are thinking. It's a place where you can buy groceries, tv's, appliances..just stuff. It's the reason I said anything about his driving in the first place, I don't like being in a truck when you have to haul things in the back, I was a bit nervous about it falling out. I didn't mean for it to seem that I was attacking him personally.

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If the girl isn't screaming, you're not driving fast enough.

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Well, I would confide in your friend. If your marraige is going to end or be saved it does not matter. Having someone (even a single person) on your side will make all the difference in the world.

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