erika2610 Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 mandy, i am not thinking of the things the others are talking about here. what im thinking of is alot simpler and easier to grasp. not that i think youre thick, i dont, but the whole family thing doesnt work really, i know. because you are correct, it is he who is choosing to cheat on his family. what i am talking about is, that awful sinking feeling you get when you realise you have been used for sex, that, feeling that you have given yourself away too easily. That's exactly what I'm saying.. feeling like a fool.
Author ww Posted November 22, 2005 Author Posted November 22, 2005 One question for aussie-mandy. If you are so happy with what u have, why are you on this forum? I used to be here a lot when I was unhappy and in need for help and advice.
erika2610 Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 One question for aussie-mandy. If you are so happy with what u have, why are you on this forum? I used to be here a lot when I was unhappy and in need for help and advice. I can tell you.. she's bragging about nabbing a MM. She hasn't replied to this thread really.. because people here are telling her not to do it. On another thread she's going on and on with the play by play of their visits..
newbby Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 I can tell you.. she's bragging about nabbing a MM. She hasn't replied to this thread really.. because people here are telling her not to do it. On another thread she's going on and on with the play by play of their visits.. i disagree, i dont think she is bragging. i think she is obsessing over him, like people usually do when they first fall for someone. i think my advice to you mandy would be just go with it, get to know this dentist in a relationship context, but DO NOT give yourself away too easily. really find out what he is all about first. it could be that he is genuine and that he has fallen in love with you, but you need to know that BEFORE going for anything physical. my only problem with what you are doing is that you are trying to find out if he likes you by seeing if he wants to come over and now seeing if he wants to kiss you. ALL that proves is that he wants to have sex with you or as your mother put it "has the hots for you". if you want to find out if he genuinely likes you, you will only find that out over time and by asking the right questions and REALLY listening to the answers.
Author ww Posted November 22, 2005 Author Posted November 22, 2005 she's going on and on with the play by play of their visits.......sho does ot even resect him enough to keep it for themselves.....mandy r u a teenager?
seachange Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 You guys, there's a rising tide of opinion that mandy might actually be a troll, because she fits too neatly into the stereotype of "selfish, unrepentant OW", and doesn't seem to really respond in a realistic way to people's advice. I honestly don't know, she's posted in other non-OW forums so I'm not sure about this - but, for anyone who's been near where she presumably is - is it realistic, the stuff she's saying? What do you all think? I'm completely at sea. (heh, my avatar)
newbby Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 yes weve all been pondering it. i dont think that it is realistic as far as the way i was feeling at the beginning of the relationship with mm, nor anyone in these forum whose stories i know (this is quite a lot of ow). generally ow do not chase mm. generally ow try to FIGHT the feelings they begin to develop for the mm who is chasing them. generally ow do not want to begin a relationship with a mm. eventually they give in, but the whole thing (especially in the beginning) is full of guilt, confusion etc. i have never come across an ow who pursues a mm before. also when ow or any woman falls in love they dont disrespect the person they have fallen in love with (as ww said) by telling all the details (maybe to their friends). i am giving her advice and the benefit of the doubt. however i am glad that you bought this up seachange.
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