LatinCandela4 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I have been dating my boyfriend Will for almost 5 years. Honestly, I can't say there was point where the relationship was 100 percent. He is a few years older than me and I was just a sixteen when we met. This guy took my virginity and to add insult to injury I had an abortion a few months after we started dating. He told me that after that ordeal he would marry me. The thing is that after that incident I never really got the attention or affection that I thought I deserved. Its not like I got the impression that he didnt care overall. I was introduced to his friends and family members. I just thought that it was a shame that I never felt really appreciated. I blamed it on the age difference and figured things will get better as I got older. I was always really shy and not into confrontations.As a result of that we reached the point of no return. He found out that I had cheated on him as a result of his indiffernce. I kept going on dates here and there whether he found out or didnt. I know that what I did was wrong but I felt like I needed to keep my options open. He eventually found out about some guys that I went out with but he always took me back. Despite of all these ups and downs I still love him with all my heart. I need advice on how I can make him appreciate me more. I am tired of pursuing him and of his indiffernce. I know he loves me but finds it hard to commit to me now. Please Help, N
Sarah12385 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Hm...I don't blame your boyfriend. You say he "took" your virginity? Unless it was rape of forced sex, it wasn't a one sided ordeal, in my opinion at least. I'm not even going to get into the topic of abortion. If you cheated on him, and he took you back, you sure are lucky. You want him to appreciate you more? How is he supposed to be able to do that if you cheated on him? Numerous times that is. It's hard to mend wounds like that. I say the 2 of you sit down & have an honest talk about what all has been going on, and you need to get used to confrontations because I think the two of you need one ~Sarah~
solsta Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I understand your situation to some extent. It is hard when you are with someone and feel that he is not giving you what you need and deserve and that you don't want to waste your life on the wrong one. I think you went on dates for a reason and did so because you had no stability, am I wrong?
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