SMHappyface Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I was listening to Christmas music today (C hated Xmas music) and suddenly it hit me HOW MANY GOOD things I can do now with my ex out of my life. When a bad relationship ends, even though it's hard, think of all the positive things you can do/not have to do. Here's a mini-list of some of my blessings 1. I can listen to Christmas music 2. I don't have to have a detailed reason for everything 3. I can do active things again and not feel guilty 4. I don't have to constantly worry about making him happy 5. I can watch funny movies again Hum... dang, I didn't realize what a control freak he was
Tangerina Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I don't feel vaugely worried/panicked/uncomfortable all of the time. I don't have to watch what I say or do to avoid fights. I don't have to deal with him embarassing me in public by acting like a dork. I cry a lot less. Don't have to forgo sleep for sex because my current BF doesn't wait til I am already asleep to proposition me... Don't have to hold crying in for hours at a time while I pretend that I'm fine... I can listen to my music or watch my movies without having him make fun of them even though I know he likes them himself... PS a little off topic but I never want a BF again who thinks it is funny to arrange fruit and vegetables at the grocery store into lewd configurations/thinks it is hilarious to pretend that bananas are his **ck.... what was up with that?!?!? It wasn't even funny the first time...
SmoochieFace Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 PS a little off topic but I never want a BF again who thinks it is funny to arrange fruit and vegetables at the grocery store into lewd configurations/thinks it is hilarious to pretend that bananas are his **ck.... what was up with that?!?!? It wasn't even funny the first time... How old was he... 12?
Author SMHappyface Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 My ex had a T-shirt that read "My dick is bigger than yours" OMG, if your self-worth is wrapped up in your c*ck, you really are just a big dick. And Tangeria, I understand about the sleep thing - watch a movie and just about 45 minutes into sleep (they've been there ALL NIGHT) they start wanting to fool around - dang, somehow pierce brosman was more important and JUST as I finally slip off into an exhausted slumber NOW you want me to "fix" you? It should've tipped me off that he hated the term "making love."
slubberdegullion Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Great idea for a thread!I DON'T have to listen to xmas music;I can come and go as I please;I can watch whatever show I want, or rent whatever movie I want;No cleaning up after her;Not having to be the passenger in the car when she drives (scary, very scary);I don't have to tolerate her stinky feet or other associated odiferous body parts;No more listening to her whine and b!tch and chew and complain about her period;I know where my money goes (and it's not going to $200 shoes which get worn once);No more mind games;No more sexual rejections.
Author SMHappyface Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 No more sexual rejections. I never rejected my ex and he still cheated. OMG.
SmoochieFace Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 My ex had a T-shirt that read "My dick is bigger than yours" OMG, if your self-worth is wrapped up in your c*ck, you really are just a big dick. That, and the fact that he must have been quite insecure.
slubberdegullion Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I never rejected my ex and he still cheated. OMG. You never, ever turned him down? doing anything tonight?
Author SMHappyface Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 You never, ever turned him down? doing anything tonight? Hehehe - nope. Even if I wasn't in the mood. Would cramp up my jaw on BJs - and he would throw a fit if I asked for anything.
Tangerina Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Yah, the sleep thing was really wierd, cuz I started wondering if he was just finding excuses not to do it... I would get all cleaned up and put on nice lingerie and basically try to seduce him and he would always say he had to clean his room and stretch first (damn narcissistic ballet dancers) and then we could have sex... well, this would take an hour and I would fall asleep, and he knew that when I fall asleep I have a really heard time getting in the mood again and then finally would be like, "ok, I will have sex with you now..." Wierd!!!! This was in the 3rd year of our relationship, but Geez, we only saw each other on weekends and by that time I was ready to go, but he barely ever wanted it spontaneously anymore, it always had to fit his schedule.... How old was he... 12? HAHA, no, but he acted like it often... hissy fits and such!
JS17 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I don't feel vaugely worried/panicked/uncomfortable all of the time. I don't have to watch what I say or do to avoid fights. I don't have to deal with him embarassing me in public by acting like a dork. I cry a lot less. Don't have to forgo sleep for sex because my current BF doesn't wait til I am already asleep to proposition me... Don't have to hold crying in for hours at a time while I pretend that I'm fine... I can listen to my music or watch my movies without having him make fun of them even though I know he likes them himself... PS a little off topic but I never want a BF again who thinks it is funny to arrange fruit and vegetables at the grocery store into lewd configurations/thinks it is hilarious to pretend that bananas are his **ck.... what was up with that?!?!? It wasn't even funny the first time... Tangerina I really think we might have been dating the same guy. Except that instead of fruit it was huh huh huh, nuts or huh huh huh, balls. jeez. The sex thing doesn't apply. He had a "problem". So that's better too. My list is pretty much the same as Tangerina's but also I get to watch saturday morning cartoons and nobody tells me I'm annoying or stupid or rude or embarassing or fat anymore. I kind of like it.
Tangerina Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 That is aweful, SM..... what a loser, I am sorry that that happened!
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 1) i can go bang alot of guys, where it wont be considered cheating( haah jk). 2) can be around people who dont think im annoying( friends), 3) i can use my vibrator more( true).haha 4) i wont fall off the face of the earth any more( unless im with my friends lol)5) i can make everyone else happy who is glad of the break up 6) i now can see all the screwed up things he did to me and now realize it should have been over along time ago? 7)i can buy my friends presents this year and not him 8) i can be my own person now 9) i wont feel worthless any more 10) i wont ever get my stuff broken or thrown in the toilet again haha there are alot of benefits especially if they wont talk to you for the next year( with as scary as it sounds...is happening to me)
In Sync Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Hmmm 1. Never have to hear him say "I'm A Person of Superior Intellect" again. 2. Never have to recoil in shock from his verbal attacks. 3. Never have to watching him run back and forth to his scale every ten minutes to check his weight. 4. Never have to hear him praise Bill O'Reilly as a genius or watch Fox News again. 5. Never have to hear him refer to me with a sneer "You're just a LIBERAL." Or other labels. "Whack-job" "Psycho" 6. Never have to here him criticize my choice of movies. 7. Never have to have boring sex again.
Mz. Pixie Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 1. Never have to listen to that horrid snoring again- literally I could sleep in another room with two doors shut between us and still hear it. 2. Never have to have boring sex again. 3. Never have to worry about buying something at the grocery store that he doesnt' like so that I can eat it all myself. 4. Actually can be married to someone who can cook and pick up after himself. 5. Never have to hear about deer hunting, or fishing again. Never have to watch those terrible sportsman shows again! 6. Never have to be told "I'm too busy to work on our marriage" again. I could go on and on and on. SM- you are so much better off without this jerko. One day when you meet the love of your life you'll be like "WHO?"
scobro Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 1) i can go bang alot of guys, where it wont be considered cheating( haah jk). WHOO HOO SIGN ME UP!!! i can use my vibrator more( true).haha WHOO HOO SIGN ME UP!!!
reservoirdog1 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Cool, can guys play too? 1) I don't have to listen to that drony elevator music she got into in the last two years or so. 2) I don't have to deal with her buying a new CD, playing it OVER AND OVER AND OVER for a month and then never listening to it again. 3) If I want to spend money on a little frivolous indulgence, I can do it, without feeling guilty. 4) When I get the credit card statement, I don't have to worry that she put another $1000 on it buying more clothes she doesn't need. Or thank her for exercising restraint by only putting $400 on the card this month. 5) Never having to hear "can't you do that another time?" in response to telling her I want to run out for an hour on the weekend to check out a new store or something. 6) Now, I can actually enjoy spending time with my Mom & Dad and sisters... and not get this constant vibe from her that she'd rather be anywhere else. Don't have to make excuses to them for her being tired or irritable. Don't have to rush out the moment the meal is over on the pretext of "we have to get the kids to bed." I'd forgotten how much I like being around my family. 7) Not having to observe her flirty, coquettish, touchy manner around men. So phony and put on. 8) Not being with somebody who seems to feel like sex is a chore, or that there's some ulterior motive (power, affirmation), who doesn't totally seem to enjoy it, and will rarely try something other than missionary or DS. Or venture beyond just doing it in bed.
Mz. Pixie Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Oh I forgot another one- Never having to worry about my use of my sex toys being monitored. My exhusband used to go out of town almost every weekend but then would go ballistic if he thought I'd masturbated at all while he was gone.
brittanyjean259 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 this might make everyone re look on the pros, but reading everyones lists...doesnt it make you kinda giggle like all the negative things like that could make you miss them? SORRY , my ex would always snore , and he would sleep naky and wake up with pennies and nickles stuck TO his butt hahaha, i knwo the verbaly abusive parts and negative name calling you can be thankful that part isnt in your life any more!
downcydeguy Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I: - Won't be dumped shortly before Christmas again (this is 2 in a row) - Won't be cheated on every time she (or I) go out of town - Don't have to feel like low class when I visit her family - Won't find out that she creates online profiles listing her only interest is MEN - Will be able to save money by not having to take her out to eat at fancy restaurants all the time - Won't have to "grin and bare it" while around her backstabbing friends - Won't have to get random info from people that prove her lies - Won't have to hear her say "I will love you forever" without feeling - Will start having sex alone (umm, wait, that's for the NEGATIVE list)
Author SMHappyface Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 I thought of some MORE! --Never have to listen to him saying about random chicks "She's hot, I'd throw it in her" --Not have him eat all my food at restaurants --Actually be able to pick a movie at the theater --Actually be ABLE to go on a date (he hasn't taken me out since Christmas of 2003) --Not have to listen to him complain about everything I did wrong (driving, way I ate, the way I combed my hair) --Not constantly feeling like a failure --Be able to go spend time w/friends and not have him bitch about it --Not have to satisfy a never-ending sexual desire (with would be fine if there was a way to satisfy it!) --Not feel guilty for having my own personal boundaries
Natalie05 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Life is better without my ex because......... - I don't have to report my whereabouts every hour on the hour. - I don't have to listen to "Are ya gonna gimme some luvin?" and dread boring awful sex then fake an orgasm so he'll get off me. My vibrator still can't be beat by any man........ - I don't have spend the holidays constantly being around him and his family pretending like I'm having fun and watching his sisters get drunk and cry. - I'm now free to do whatever the hell I want without constant criticism.
scobro Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Everyone seems to have a whole laundry list of what they didn't like but I enjoyed being married to my wife very much.Sure there are some ideosynchrosies that I didn't like but thats part of living with someone.Instead I will list what I miss Phone call and e-mails during the day just to say hi watching movies together walking our dogs hearing i love you spending time together at the beach going to the gym and working out knowing she was coming home and I would have dinner waiting making love candle lit baths together going away on vacation knowing she will pack 3 more suitcases than she needs holding hands plans to start a family her (she was beautiful) Maybe this is a weak moment for me (im going to the gym) For all the s*** she put me through at the end of our marriage there is still a lot I miss and want back, but I know I won't be back with her but there is not a lot I do now that I didn't do when I was married but there is a whole lot I miss about her.I know it sounds pathetic but not everything was bad I enjoyed my wife and was happy I just didn't know she wasn't until she ended it.
Author SMHappyface Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 knowing she was coming home and I would have dinner waiting making love candle lit baths together A cooking man, huh? Dang Scobro - you don't realize how many chicks would kill for a guy that looks like you and has a sentimental side. You're not a loser in love, you just married one.
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