Outcast Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 There may be catty women; I've not encountered any since the job I had before I went to university. I think it's a function of intellect and maturity - especially emotional maturity. Usually it is the good looking females who hate other women and have plenty of male "friends". What men don't know about too many of these types because men are so sadly naive is that a lot of these women appear to be all sweetness and light in front of them, but when men aren't around, they are queen bitches par extraordinaire. And then there are the ones who continually complain about how men constantly hit on them while they're made up to the max and showing cleavage down to there. They are bragging, of course, and it's as tiresome as it is when your guy pals go on and on about how fabulous their football play was or how much money they're making, etc etc. It's about the bullshxt these sorts put out and the pitiful way men drool all over them that's what annoys women. Someday, Alp, disguise yourself as a female and go to the can with one of those females and you'll find out why women hate them - they are so used to soaking up male attention that they are ultra-competitive and will be royal bitches to other women and then come out of the ladies' room and moan and whine to the men about how the awful women just hate them.
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 me sometimes am too blunt with my friends, because some can take it too seriously but i feel when you find good best friends, thats how you joke around people who you are comfortable with can joke like that. ive always admired boy bonding, and girls can do the same thing but girls are more vicious no matter what.
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 ive also noticed, girls more towards guy friends, and ganging up on girls.......they admire girls more...and i dont like that i feel girls should stick together, its cool to find guy friends....but i hate how girls degrade women by competing with eachother hell compete with a guy on who can drive faster hahaha
Hot Coco Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 " Ithink it's a function of intellect and maturity - especially emotional maturity." I think above all, it's a question of CHARACTER. Yes, and Outcast you characterized the typical Southern Belle (EWWW!) with your description.
JS17 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I haven't read the whole thread so sorry if I'm repeating or missing anything. I have always had a mix of male and female friends. While I love my guy friends, our friendships aren't that deep. They're great fun to hang out with and will often take your mind off of things that are bothering you temporarily. My friendships with my girlfriends are far more intimate. I know they will be there for me no matter what. I don't think we've ever had a competition over a man although I do have one friend that needs attention from every man but she has some issues. As far as my experience is concerned, backstabbing and cattiness were left behind at high school graduation. My girlfriends are supportive, we have a lot of fun together, I can depend on them and I can talk to them about anything. I value my friendships with my girlfriend far more than with my guy friends but each have their own purpose.
Author a4a Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 And then there are the ones who continually complain about how men constantly hit on them while they're made up to the max and showing cleavage down to there. QUOTE] Hey now I complain about guys hitting on me.....I don't encourage it at all. I wear my loafers, baggy jeans and sweatshirt...not all of us that get hit on are trying to get hit on. I run out with a pony tail and freakin flannel shirt on with horse crap on the bottom of my boots and get hit on.... maybe some men are attracted to the way a woman is blunt and isn't chatting about fashion and kids 24/7?? I am not bragging at all here.....as a matter a fact I am only average to semi good looking. a4a
Mz. Pixie Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 " Ithink it's a function of intellect and maturity - especially emotional maturity." I think above all, it's a question of CHARACTER. Yes, and Outcast you characterized the typical Southern Belle (EWWW!) with your description. I'm a Southern belle so I disagree with that characterization. I have way more male friends than female. I tend to think alot like a man. I don't get my feelings hurt easy and it takes a good bit to piss me off. I like it when I can just tell someone what I think, yet not be cruel about it. If you're agressive though people think you're a bitch. Just part of the game. Women spend alot of time stabbing each other in the back, and I've got way too much to do to spend time doing that.
alphamale Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I'm a Southern belle . so does that mean you're dumb?
Author a4a Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 I'm a Southern belle so I disagree with that characterization. I have way more male friends than female. I tend to think alot like a man. I don't get my feelings hurt easy and it takes a good bit to piss me off. I like it when I can just tell someone what I think, yet not be cruel about it. If you're agressive though people think you're a bitch. Just part of the game. Women spend alot of time stabbing each other in the back, and I've got way too much to do to spend time doing that. Do you think it is because you are comfortable in your own skin so you can just say what is on your mind? And you can take what is dished out at you? Are the back stabbing women just so damn insecure that they need to do this? My it is sad that women cannot learn to support each other. a4a
alphamale Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 My it is sad that women cannot learn to support each other. and this is exactly why women (as a whole) will never rule the earth. they are too emotional and too busy busting each other's chops. Men may be competitive also but they work together better towards a common cause. Men have built the planet the way it is now and it is most definitely not perfect but it is something. Women are good at their own things like cooking and cleaning and taking care of kids and stuff.... Men may be worried about which guy has a better job and makes more $$ or who has a better car or better looking wife but their competitiveness ends there pretty much. They ususally don't back stab each other to death.
JS17 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Wow, I'm really glad I found the only 20 women on the planet that don't backstab each other and actually support each other.
alphamale Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Wow, I'm really glad I found the only 20 women on the planet that don't backstab each other and actually support each other. well yeah JS17, when you are in the room or on the phone with them they are real supportive but when you are not around they're talking *smack* about you and dissing you and saying how much o f a beeyotch you are....and, and, and...they're thingking how to steal away your man and all that sheeyot and why is it, JS17, that women are not intereseted in a man who is unattached. I mean when a dude does finally find a girlfirend and then goes out all these other chicks who never whould have given him the time of day before are now on him like white on rice.
Author a4a Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 well yeah JS17, when you are in the room or on the phone with them they are real supportive but when you are not around they're talking *smack* about you and dissing you and saying how much o f a beeyotch you are....and, and, and...they're thingking how to steal away your man and all that sheeyot and why is it, JS17, that women are not intereseted in a man who is unattached. I mean when a dude does finally find a girlfirend and then goes out all these other chicks who never whould have given him the time of day before are now on him like white on rice. OMG I think I might agree with you Alpha! Well at least on the "unavailable guy thing" that is a very interesting point. WTF is up with that? a4a
Author a4a Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 Men may be worried about which guy has a better job and makes more $$ or who has a better car or better looking wife but their competitiveness ends there pretty much. They ususally don't back stab each other to death. Yeah but don't men do most of the get lots of money, get great cars ect just to get more women? So in a way are women actually ruling the earth in a round about way? a4a
Outcast Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Alpha, why not move out of stereotype-land? You're talking about the sorts you find in bars, not the women who are achievers in industry and government. The latter sort haven't the time or patience for the bullshxt games that you find in your barhops. And BTW, women have ruled many of the major nations on the planet quite successfully. It's just the retro-macho N. American societies that are too wedded to stereotypes to allow women to run the show. Surely, since you're in your Fortune 500 company and all, you will have read at least some of the articles about management styles and how the female management style is now considered the better way to deal with people? As for your last question, it's a no-brainer. A guy who has a woman feels more confident and confidence is attractive. Before he had the woman, he may have been one of those types that just oozes desperation or timidity or any one of a number of unattractive traits.
alphamale Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 OMG I think I might agree with you Alpha! Well at least on the "unavailable guy thing" that is a very interesting point. WTF is up with that? because A4A....a dude who is attached or "taken" has a higher value in the eyes of women. They think that he already has the seal of approval from another female so he must have something going for him. A guy by himself is considereed a loser who is unworthy of thier love and thier pussy... ahhh....but a guy who is taken is worth much much more and is also a challenge. Plz read my sig line.
JS17 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Come on Alpha, that's not true. Are there things that piss us off about each other? Of course. Do we talk about it with our other friends? Sometimes and it usually helps us to let off steam or figure out how to talk about it with the friend who is causing a problem but that rarely happens. We're all a pain in the a$$ for one reason or another and our relationships are very open. There's nothing they can't say to me and nothing I can't say to them. If I'm being a b!tch they call me out on it. When I need to talk about a breakup they listen for hours on end and I do the same for them. None of us would EVER touch the other one's boyfriend. We have far too much respect for each other. I guess this answers my thread from over the weekend as to what I should do about my friend that keeps cancelling. I should be thankful that she's my friend because while she might be annoying for cancelling on me I know that it's small in comparison to what the rest of our friendship provides both of us.
Hot Coco Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I'm a Southern belle so I disagree with that characterization. I have way more male friends than female. I tend to think alot like a man. I don't get my feelings hurt easy and it takes a good bit to piss me off. I like it when I can just tell someone what I think, yet not be cruel about it. If you're agressive though people think you're a bitch. Just part of the game. Women spend alot of time stabbing each other in the back, and I've got way too much to do to spend time doing that. I guess we have different ideas about what a Southern Belle is. I think it's rather close to the description Outcast gave. You don't sound like that. So in my book you're not a Southern Belle. Not all southern women are Southern Belles. Just like not all Jewish women are JAPS.
Hot Coco Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 so does that mean you're dumb? I know I can't stop laughing, no offense to Ms. Pixie but I've never heard anyone actually admit they're a Southern Belle!
SmoochieFace Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 because A4A....a dude who is attached or "taken" has a higher value in the eyes of women. They think that he already has the seal of approval from another female so he must have something going for him. A guy by himself is considereed a loser who is unworthy of thier love and thier pussy... ahhh....but a guy who is taken is worth much much more and is also a challenge. Plz read my sig line. That is one of the stupidest things I have ever read... not ONCE when I was either involved or married did I have swarms of women wanting me because of some *higher value* *beep*... god, quit going to the bars and reading that Doc Love bulls***, will you?!
Author a4a Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 A guy who has a woman feels more confident and confidence is attractive. Before he had the woman, he may have been one of those types that just oozes desperation or timidity or any one of a number of unattractive traits. Noting this on my calendar of as a great day of importance in my life....... I agree with you on this Outcast...... I have a single male friend that oozes the timid desparate crap and it is such a turn off even as just being his friend. Wondering overall though why women would want to breech the female friendship to "steal away a man"....... I have never had interest to do this. Maybe I have yet to meet a taken guy that just makes me want him that much? a4a
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 i think alpha male does make a good point, im not affended for any reason because i know alot of smart women who bust there butt, and some supporting there husbands. i only feel men rule the world if we think like that, i dont....men have more of an advantage to learn more because thats how there born. women are not taught anything else .... some women are chatty back stabbing lil biotches...were sterotyped much more than men there for people think women cant do certain things.. i dont want a man who is sexist, but who feels equal, and can both learn from eachother...... if you men think some of womens petty stuff dont matter than you are not open minded, and think only one way...and thats just boring
Outcast Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 It's very easy to live life believing in stereotypes. It saves people having to think for themselves.
Hot Coco Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Please, OUtcast, you spoke of a stereotype...I just gave it a name.
SmoochieFace Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 ...you, who are a total loser... :lmao: Now I know why you like following me around. Birds of a feather...
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