BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 hello been looking at my ex tonight online and going my god she is beautiful and she is, it hurts so much to look at her but i want to, i've done the dumping everything about her but really i can't move on, couldn't help going to a music site tonight and looking at her photo
cynicalnlove Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 hello been looking at my ex tonight online and going my god she is beautiful and she is, it hurts so much to look at her but i want to, i've done the dumping everything about her but really i can't move on, couldn't help going to a music site tonight and looking at her photo When did you guys break up? and who broke up with who?
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 my very long story is here... i'm sure you could not read most of it... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t72679?goto=newpost
cynicalnlove Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 my very long story is here... i'm sure you could not read most of it... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t72679?goto=newpost Ok, I skimmed through this one because there were so many pages. Its been nearly two months since you broke up with your ex right? That is still pretty fresh. I remember when i broke up with mine, its about 2 months now and I find myself looking at his picture and thinking of him on a daily basis. But its getting a lot better. For some reason though, now I don't have to urge to want to know what he's up to or how he's doing. The "missing" feeling is still there, but the curiosity has died. So see - how about this, try this method. Look at her picture every day, let it it sink in that you're looking at a girl that will now be a dream. And ask yourself, wouldn't you want someone real? Don't you get sick and tired of looking at a girl you know that its over? you have to get it in your mind (i know its hard) but tell yourself each morning.. it's over, what i do or what she does has nothing to do with each other. Focus your mind on something else.. and i'll get a lot better. you'll see.
ButtonPusher Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 ask her to send you a jar of her s***. Look at the jar instead of the photo, and tell yourself that it came from inside the girl you think is gorgeous. I guarantee you won't drool over her after this.
NrclptcNSmniak Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 my triumphant return!!!! then again he could be a coprophiliac ......
Art_Critic Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 You need to dump all the links and all the photos as well. STOP lookin at her pictures online.. that is self defeating
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 Ok, I skimmed through this one because there were so many pages. Its been nearly two months since you broke up with your ex right? That is still pretty fresh. I remember when i broke up with mine, its about 2 months now and I find myself looking at his picture and thinking of him on a daily basis. But its getting a lot better. For some reason though, now I don't have to urge to want to know what he's up to or how he's doing. The "missing" feeling is still there, but the curiosity has died. So see - how about this, try this method. Look at her picture every day, let it it sink in that you're looking at a girl that will now be a dream. And ask yourself, wouldn't you want someone real? Don't you get sick and tired of looking at a girl you know that its over? you have to get it in your mind (i know its hard) but tell yourself each morning.. it's over, what i do or what she does has nothing to do with each other. Focus your mind on something else.. and i'll get a lot better. you'll see. not even 1 month, also i met her sort of accidentally the other week, last week , i do dump the photos only to download them again look at them and cry my eyes out!
Art_Critic Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Aw.. man.. I've been there.. I had burned a cd of every email, photo and hid it.. only to keep pulling it out.. Until I threw the cd away I didn't get any rest
alphamale Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 You need to dump all the links and all the photos as well. STOP lookin at her pictures online.. that is self defeating agreed A_C, hitting himself over the head with a baseball bat would probably be less painful...
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 its difficult to dump the links if you remember them in your brain, her brother has a website and i remember the web address Art_Critic it is self defeating although i still have photos of my ex from 6 years ago,i remember showing them to my ex, no point shucking them out , infact it reminded me of a good time two of my best friends weddings have both of us in them, and the wedding video and photos of just us two together, i can't ask him to bin them
whichwayisup Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 You're not ready to let go yet...You're still caught up in grieving and hoping it will change and she'll come back to you. Let's say in a month or so, you really should TRY your best to put the pictures in a box, tape it up and put it in the closet. Then, indulge yourself into your music, do a new hobby, get out and have fun - Not the bar scene, but in other ways. Change your habits, meaning places you go regularly and meet up with family and friends maybe you've not seen in a while. Even take a holiday somewhere could help. Anyway, you don't have to throw out the pictures, box them!
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 22, 2005 Author Posted November 22, 2005 You're not ready to let go yet...You're still caught up in grieving and hoping it will change and she'll come back to you. Let's say in a month or so, you really should TRY your best to put the pictures in a box, tape it up and put it in the closet. Then, indulge yourself into your music, do a new hobby, get out and have fun - Not the bar scene, but in other ways. Change your habits, meaning places you go regularly and meet up with family and friends maybe you've not seen in a while. Even take a holiday somewhere could help. Anyway, you don't have to throw out the pictures, box them! whichway i can't throw my friends wedding albums out although i don't have them so i suppose its the same thing my music is her music , most of the people i socialise with are the same as her, my hobby of building guitars... guess what everyone there knows her too and regularly plays with her... its hard to give up your life in order to try and move on... both of us have way too much common ground another example... the place where I learn guitar... guess what she teaches in it anyway both of us have been at the same bar scene since we were 14 i.e. most of our lives so its hard to walk away from i went somewhere different to the normal 'local' on Saturday night as she plays there on Saturdays and to be honest it was crap and I just wanted to head back to where I used to go and have fun with all the locals, all the place knows me well including the barmen , even they are great fun what a bummer of a situation eh?
whichwayisup Posted November 22, 2005 Posted November 22, 2005 I didn't say to throw out anything. I said to put them in a box. There has to be other places to play guitar and take lessons where she isn't around. Ireland is BIG right? It is a bummer situation...I do wish you well...But Brain - lol - If 3 months go by and you're still sitting there looking at her pictures and crying like this, I'm gonna kick your Irish butt, OK??????? hehehe!
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 22, 2005 Author Posted November 22, 2005 I didn't say to throw out anything. I said to put them in a box. There has to be other places to play guitar and take lessons where she isn't around. Ireland is BIG right? It is a bummer situation...I do wish you well...But Brain - lol - If 3 months go by and you're still sitting there looking at her pictures and crying like this, I'm gonna kick your Irish butt, OK??????? hehehe! there really aren't a lot of good places where I live that do a specialist music scene even though its a city of 350000 people, i suppose in a way i don't want to give up on her or the whole thing, i suppose in a way I would like to see her and speak to her but i don't want to put myself through a mincer and then like you say do it again in 3 months... see i haven't had any contact from her in say 1 month nearly now, i did meet her 2 weeks ago walking home but she has never contacted me as far as I know to see if i'm alright, i'm sad she hasn't contacted me 6 years ago i had a gf, we split up yes just before Christmas as usual ( 4 times now! ) because i rode for her aunties cycling team i seem her at the annual dinner that following November with another guy and it absolutelty tore me to shreds... 10 months later and it still killed me... i don't want this and this is what i feel will happen as I know I will still love this girl in say 10 months time as she was the best gf I ever had, is very popular and believe it or not she is a lovely person!
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