Raghav111 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 this issue has come up recently, and has bothered me. i had an extremely enjoyable evening with a lovely girl some time back, and i offered to pay for dinner. things went well. i met her recently and she said she wanted to take me out to a nice place for dinner, and if i failed to do so, she would write me a check. i know this is slightly idiotic, but i find myself a little hurt by her equating what i thought was time extremely well spent with money. I also think it was slightly rude. I hate to think I made her feel obligated to take me out just because i paid up. I could probably be overreacting, but she is a good friend, and i am bothered by the fact that my affection for her is being thought of in terms of who is paying what, and how much she or I "owe" each other. tks
Enema Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 You say she "is a good friend". Maybe she feels strongly about keeping things even between friends. If you were dating and you paid and she felt that she should write you a check to cover her dinner then it would be weird. She might be a strong woman that doesn't want to be seen as taking anything from a man, regardless of who he is. I would think it's no big deal and let her take me out to dinner some other time.
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