tater97531 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I've been dating this guy for a few months now. The minute I met him we instantly clicked...we both get along really well, make each other laugh all the time. We started out as friends and then started dating in the summer. I knew he could get pretty emotional but I'm pretty chill with a lot of stuff and went into the relationship prepared to handle a lot because i liked him. As I've gotten closer to him and progressed with our relationship I've learned some things about him. At times he can get extremely moody or annoyed at the smallest things. Such as the time where he came to visit me at school (he lives an hr or 2 away) at the end of a really hectic week where I hadnt gotten much sleep. He was just like, "go take a nap, its no big deal u need it" but then seemed pissed that he had to wait around for me when he could have come to visit later. It's the little things thatll sometimes get him in a weird mood and then he'll always apologize for acting so stupid. Another thing is that he has really low self confidence...I found out recently that not only does he have really bad self esteem but to cope with stuff when things get overwhelming, he cuts himself or burns himself to feel better. I confronted him about it and he told me that actually 30 % of people do it and its just a way to release endorphins, that pain is just a way to feel better and that there are much worse things to do to yourself. When he gets drunk, he often tries to push me away saying that hes not good enough for me, that he doesnt treat me well, and that hes not a good person. He does treat me well...we talk all the time even when we arent together, considers my feelings, wants the best for me, etc. One more thing---he tells me that he isnt in a relationship with me to "get some" and that he'd even stay in it even if we didnt do anything. However this weekend I find out he goes up to one of my guy friends and tells him, "hey can you try and get Jess (my roommate) out of the room tonight i want to get some tonight...i mean i already had some sperm release but i want to try for another". im sure he was joking but its pretty offensive. this happened a month or two ago when i was really drunk and he said out loud "guess i wont be getting any tonight". I later confronted him about it and he explained that he was just kidding. He is a good guy, I know I'm a good judge of character. I feel like he needs to talk to people about what hes feeling more and not keep things inside. I do really like him, but i know that he likes me more than i like him. I'm very big on trust and I wouldnt tell anyone, even my friends, about how he feels/what he does to himself so I need some advice. Can I please have some opinions? thanks
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